Advice with a girl...

Sharp324 · Post by **Sharp324** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 4:57 am

yeah a lot of people with issues now but damn i need some advice and i know most of you do have lives. Anyway gf just made a request that we take a break to make sure im what she really wants, yeah ok but we just got back together on Dec 28th ish. Before that she said the same reason shes wanting to date other people, but she came back to me and doing it again...but honestly i love her but i cant take the heartbreak everytime she does this...i wanted to be with her but shes not sure now, she wants me to wait but honestly idk if i can put up with this shit again, honestly i want to tell her to **** off but i care about her and i cant...any suggestions?

Wu · Post by Wu » Thu Jan 10, 2008 5:10 am

If she knows how you feel about this but still swiches 'on' and 'off' I believe you should stand up for yourself and for your feelings and tell her that you need a certainty to hold on, either with or without her.

No matter how much you love her, if this has been going on for a longer while you need to cut the crap and not let her juggle with your emotions.

Well that's how I would take this situation.

It will be hard though.

Caras · Post by **Caras** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 5:41 am

This is probably the best advice I've ever heard

CrimsonNuker wrote:Show her whos boss and give her some anal after a fish dinner.

Haha, but seriously, tell her you need a break instead of the other way around

SuicideGrl · Post by **SuicideGrl** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 6:07 am

you're not a faucet that she can turn on and off at will. she's either gonna take the goddamned shower or she isn't. have some respect for yourself and tell her that she can't keep jerking you around. make sure she knows how much you care, but also make sure she knows that you aren't a toy.

San · Post by **San** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 6:09 am

SuicideGrl wrote:you're not a faucet that she can turn on and off at will. she's either gonna take the goddamned shower or she isn't. have some respect for yourself and tell her that she can't keep jerking you around. make sure she knows how much you care, but also make sure she knows that you aren't a toy.

lol...interesting, uh, metaphor?

Sylhana · Post by **Sylhana** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 7:00 am

+1 to what has been said above, but theres probably more I guess behind whats going on which you dont really have to mention. If the relationship is going strong, there can be no reason she would have doubts. Nobody can be certain how well a relationship can go, and taking a break apart is far from ideal. If this keeps going on, you'll end up getting hurt.

Sharp324 · Post by **Sharp324** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 7:17 am

Thanks for the ideas guys. Yeah I dont know why she wants this honestly, but think it has something to do with her best friend not liking me cause im not up to her standards or some crap...but ill take the advice above, since all of you seem to have the same basic idea.

takolin · Post by **takolin** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 8:51 am

Hump someone else and then claim you were on a break.

But anyway she shouldn't toy with your feelings. In the end it might be better for you that you don't get back together in order to prevent more heartache.

Reise · Post by **Reise** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 8:52 am

Doubt, whip, out, etc.

Itonami · Post by **Itonami** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 12:26 pm

Telling her to "**** off" as you said, is your best bet. You're gonna end up hurt and played by her. Don't sit around for the emotional roller coaster, go find someone who's not as indecisive as her.

MrBow · Post by **MrBow** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 1:39 pm

SuicideGrl wrote:you're not a faucet that she can turn on and off at will. she's either gonna take the goddamned shower or she isn't. have some respect for yourself and tell her that she can't keep jerking you around. make sure she knows how much you care, but also make sure she knows that you aren't a toy.

wow well said
just basically like SG said, tell her she has to choose yes/no

CobbZ · Post by **CobbZ** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 2:31 pm

to be honest, im feeling like how yr gf is feeling at the moment. I havent told my gf tho. (im a guy btw lol).

Therefore i can see where she is coming from, and it is a tough position for both of you. Dont just think she is being mean.
Respect the fact that she is honest with you and isnt just cheating on you.

To be perfectly honest, the only thing i can suggest is be straight with her and say that you cant put up with the crap she is giving, and my advice is to take that break so she can reassess her feelings.

But make sure its the last time.

Nokturne · Post by **Nokturne** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 2:55 pm

tell to her you cant have it so how she want it and say why, what she does is wrong she plays with your feelings ;if she care about you she never do like she does even if her best friend tell something else ,it is between you and her not her friend who can tell what is good or not whit your relationship whit her , talk to her how it be and then decide

heroo · Post by **heroo** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 2:56 pm

girls are dangerous.

the sooner you get that, the sooner you'll get happy !