My turn to complain =D

Itonami · Post by **Itonami** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 12:49 am

Well, this might not make any sense because all my thoughts are jumbled, so if I confuse you, I'm sorry.

Well, 7/22/05, me and this guy Jon started dating. Happy happy joy joy, fairytale love bullshit. Lots of drama, that's usual for highschool-era relationships.
Anyways, he's got a foster sister, his mom is a foster parent. This girl and I never really got along, because I always thought she wa sa slut because she seduced him (which she admitted to). We go for two years hating each other, and I found out last month that she is SIX MONTHS PREGNANT with his son, which he has been hiding from me.
I called her, we talked.. all the shit talking hes done about her he's done about me.. "She can't keep her hands off of me, I hate her, she's so fcking pathetic" to both of us.
And when I found out about her being pregnant, he "swore" to me it only happened twice, which his best friend told me today wasn't true.. that he'd go wake her up at night for sex and stuff.
Anyway, she and I talked for like two hours, and turns out he's been doing the same thing with like seven other girls the last two years.
Now, he's begging every single one of us to forgive him.. and he's gone to us individually and told us all that we mean the world to him and the other six girls are "the biggest mistake of my life"
yeah, I think not.

*breathe*
Sorry, had to complain to someone.

Boys suck. A lot.
Especially him.

ghostkilla43 · Post by **ghostkilla43** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 1:01 am

your a girl?

Locketart · Post by **Locketart** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 1:02 am

Don't worry it's good to vent out all your anger rather than keeping it inside. For someone to have sex with their foster sister, it seems sick to me. It's better you found out now than later. I've never had a relationship so I'm not sure how you feel but I think you should try to forget about him altogether. Try not to dwell on what happened because he's just a sick person and just be glad you were lucky enough to find out the truth now.

ghostkilla43 · Post by **ghostkilla43** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 1:04 am

well just forget about him..and just laugh at him and the thought of him.

BrokenSaint · Post by **BrokenSaint** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 1:07 am

WTF? With his foster sister? Is he on acid? Pfft leave that pathetic scum.

fena · Post by **fena** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 1:26 am

Jon. That's my name. Now I feel all bad. :cry:

I honestly don't know what to say to that, and I don't think I should be saying anything, considering that what you're going through right now is even beyond my comprehension. And now I feel like such a whiny bitch.
But my heart goes out to you, Ito. :love:

There are plenty of other guys out there - and maybe, just maybe one day, you'll find the guy that you're looking for.

Reise · Post by **Reise** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 1:33 am

lol Hope he gets some nasty VD from that "foster" sister of his.

MastaChiefX · Post by **MastaChiefX** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 1:38 am

WTF your sister?

Wow.
Lol.
**** him, you deserve better.

Draquish · Post by **Draquish** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 1:53 am

Please tell me he doesn't live in Florida...because if he does...he's screwed. There is nothing I hate more than someone who messes w/ people's feelings.

Itonami · Post by **Itonami** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 2:21 am

[SD]draquish wrote:Please tell me he doesn't live in Florida...because if he does...he's screwed. There is nothing I hate more than someone who messes w/ people's feelings.

>_>

<_<

*ahem*

He's in Florida.
About 4 hours west of me.
Lol.

And thanks guys, i'm just all shaken up, and I feel sick to my stomach.. part of me wants to cry but i'm too pissed to cry? it doesn't make any sense. =/

Draquish · Post by **Draquish** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 2:22 am

Wait...is that Jon kid...black?

Does he happen to go to Everglades?

O_o

Itonami · Post by **Itonami** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 2:24 am

xD No.

he's whitemexican and lives near Pensacola-Crestview. >_>
Not sharing anymore information about his wherabouts, just know that he's living with my brother LaRue, and LaRue is PISSED.. and currently looking for Jon. LOL.

Elikapeka · Post by **Elikapeka** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 2:45 am

What a sleaze nugget.

*cough*

I hope LaRue finds Jon, I really do. And I hope he fixes Jon's nether region proper. Hmph. There should be a club for girls who get burnt like this. It'd be huge, and I'd be the president. I'm still reeling after my last guy did about the exact same thing. Only she's already popped the kid out. Go figure. He was really cute too. Ugh. I need a hug. :cry:

Itonami · Post by **Itonami** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 2:50 am

Elikapeka wrote:What a sleaze nugget. *cough*

I hope LaRue finds Jon, I really do. And I hope he fixes Jon's nether region proper. Hmph. There should be a club for girls who get burnt like this. It'd be huge, and I'd be the president. I'm still reeling after my last guy did about the exact same thing. Only she's already popped the kid out. Go figure. He was really cute too. Ugh. I need a hug.

So you understand where i'm coming from, then. I'm only 16 too, I feel it's kinda unfair for this to happen, especially when i'm so young. it's like.. things got serious and I devoted two years of my childhood to him, only to find out it was a waste of my time, and now that it's all over and done i'm not a kid. it's like.. what do i do?
What was I supposed to do, the last two years of my life? I don't know where to put my pieces, and i'm not sure I found all my pieces in the first place.
I don't know what to do.

Sorry if I sound stupid, lol.

XemnasXD · Post by **XemnasXD** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 2:51 am

wow

thats wrong on so many lvls.....i don't really know what to say to comfort you....but if i were you i wouldn't be sad i'd be more mad so...KICK HIS ASS!!!

Xyzzzy · Post by **Xyzzzy** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 2:51 am

wait wait wait
he farked his foster sister???
wow
lol
and sorry for the loss of your sleezebag

XuChu · Post by **XuChu** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 2:54 am

middle of night waking foster sister, ughh! that is disgusting!

Meow · Post by **Meow** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 3:15 am

You don't deserve that, leave him.
There are better guys

Nokturne · Post by **Nokturne** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 3:29 am

I'm getting some ice cream and candy and some movies and I'll come over and we'll dance in our underwear until you're too tired to move anymore.

Love you Laylarchan.

cin · Post by **cin** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 3:30 am

[NF]Itonami wrote:Sorry if I sound stupid, lol.

you dont. i dont think there is many ppl here that been through what you have
just been through. i cant understand that some men are such dicks. i cant
understand whats going through their minds as they just go out and break
hearts..

anyway, you are a good person and as mastachief said; you deserve better.
its just hard for this should be a "lesson" for you, but at this time and age, it
will only make you suspicious when it comes to guys.. especially when you
want to start a new relationship.

my advice (as far as i can give you advice) is to let this situation rest. dont
let him get to you again, which i think you wont after i read your story. just
try to go out and hang with friends as much as possible and try not to think
of what happened too much. start a new relationship when you are ready for
one. if you rush things, it will only make you feel suspicious towards the
guy, and if thats so then the relationship is almost sure to fail.

damn why do some guys make this shit happen..

MastaChiefX wrote:**** him, you deserve better.

Draquish · Post by **Draquish** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 3:46 am

Bleh, too far away...can't be assed to take the drive.

Leave him, don't EVER let him get to you...cut ALL contact w/ the guy.

^^^^^^^^

My best advice to you.

Itonami · Post by **Itonami** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 3:56 am

He went and told every single one of those girls that he doesn't love them, that he loves me and that he made the mistake of being lustful with every one of them and he regrets it. My brother had his wn baby emergency so he and his lady are at the hospital takin care of things.
I want to just walk away. I honestly truly do but there's a little feeling I get that makes me think that maybe, just maybe this time he's isn't lying but I dont know what to do. I have no way to know if i'm being told the truth. I have no way to know if he's sincere. Sure, he pretty much set thigns straight with the other six girls but I dont know what i'm going to do.
Do I believe him? Do I laugh in his face and walk away?

cin · Post by **cin** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 3:58 am

[NF]Itonami wrote:He went and told every single one of those girls that he doesn't love them, that he loves me and that he made the mistake of being lustful with every one of them and he regrets it. My brother had his wn baby emergency so he and his lady are at the hospital takin care of things.
I want to just walk away. I honestly truly do but there's a little feeling I get that makes me think that maybe, just maybe this time he's isn't lying but I dont know what to do. I have no way to know if i'm being told the truth. I have no way to know if he's sincere. Sure, he pretty much set thigns straight with the other six girls but I dont know what i'm going to do.
Do I believe him? Do I laugh in his face and walk away?

his foster sis is getting his baby. walk away

Locketart · Post by **Locketart** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 4:00 am

Even if you get back with him, theres no gaurantee he won't do it again. He'll still live with his sister. He's already cheated on you. There's no reason to take him back. Personally the things he did makes me sick to my stomach.

Elikapeka · Post by **Elikapeka** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 4:02 am

So you understand where i'm coming from, then. I'm only 16 too, I feel it's kinda unfair for this to happen, especially when i'm so young. it's like.. things got serious and I devoted two years of my childhood to him, only to find out it was a waste of my time, and now that it's all over and done i'm not a kid. it's like.. what do i do?
What was I supposed to do, the last two years of my life? I don't know where to put my pieces, and i'm not sure I found all my pieces in the first place.
I don't know what to do.

Sorry if I sound stupid, lol.

Hardly stupid. You sound just like I did. I asked myself those exact questions and felt those feelings. And you weren't suppose to do anything. You couldn't have. If hindsight were foresight y'know?

The only thing I know to do is to tell you how I handled my situation, and how I'm getting over it and moving on.

I cut off all contact with him. I didn't answer his calls, deleted his e-mails without reading, same with txts and any other form of communication. You don't need that kind of poison in your life. You need to focus on you and healing. Figure out what's most important in your life now. Whether it be school and friends or family, or a hobby. Even if it's fleeting. Something that will help you cope.

Next, I convinced myself it wasn't my fault and even though I lost precious moments of my life to that person, I've got plenty more to look forward to. And I'll be a stronger person because of it, eventually.

And as unfair as it is, thus is life. Unfortunately, we will all go through things like this, but it's human nature to deal and cope and move on.

Forget him, he's not healthy for you. You don't need nor deserve to be treated like that. Live your life. Focus on school and friends, family and anything that brings joy to your life. Those are the key things that'll make figuring all this out easier.

Man am I long winded or what?!

hitokiri · Post by **hitokiri** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 4:06 am

wow. Thats...yea. Really sorry you have to go through something like that.

A lot of times, you know a choice you make is wrong. Instead of learning from your mistakes however you think what if, what if this time, maybe now, etc. Have to really think hard of all the angles of it. Dont let life keep repeating itself. Nobody is perfect, we all fall at some point. But you are meant to fall so you learn not too again. Everytime something doesnt go like you hope or expect, dont get down from it. But dont forget about it.

I hope whatever you choose works out for you, sometimes you get kind of caught in a cycle of being brought into weird relationships like this one way or another. Just be careful and break the cycle if thats the case. Wish you the best

StealMySoda · Post by **StealMySoda** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 4:49 am

Ito/Bob

Sometimes you've got to know when to let go. Unless your 100% sure you can work it out with him, just move on.

Your 16 you've still for 3/4 years left of your teenage years, get out there get over him and enjoy them.

Itonami · Post by **Itonami** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 6:16 am

StealMySoda wrote:Ito/Bob
Sometimes you've got to know when to let go. Unless your 100% sure you can work it out with him, just move on.

Your 16 you've still for 3/4 years left of your teenage years, get out there get over him and enjoy them.

I love you Sarah/Soda.

It's hard to get past the whole.. sick/upset feeling.
I'm stressing myself out liek crazy. =/

XuChu · Post by **XuChu** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 6:40 am

[NF]Itonami wrote:I dont know what i'm going to do.

I tell you what you should do, go up to that son of a bitch and kick him in the balls

Meow · Post by **Meow** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 6:53 am

[NF]Itonami wrote:
StealMySoda wrote:Ito/Bob
Sometimes you've got to know when to let go. Unless your 100% sure you can work it out with him, just move on.

Your 16 you've still for 3/4 years left of your teenage years, get out there get over him and enjoy them.

I love you Sarah/Soda.

It's hard to get past the whole.. sick/upset feeling.
I'm stressing myself out liek crazy. =/

Meh..guys..
I know it's hard but it's best if u leave him, you'll feel so much better, trust me. He's his foster sisters babys daddy lol.