Relationship help?

[Love]

Is this situation cool enough now that we can make fun of you for getting outplayed by some dude out of state =p ?

[Brago]

Well, just hope she took your text as a joke, you should text her like normal so she doesn't think you meant it.

You have to make this a conspiracy man. Wire her and whoever she talks to and see what they say about you. If she wants to do you, you'll know. But being commited to someone is a girls way of saying " u my friend, nothing more."

[Mirosuke]

"There really isn't much to think about."

Sounds like "I am no worth to be in your head." for me. :/

For spoiler 1, what does committed means? Sorry, I am not native english speaker D: but seems like she's fond into that guy. When you like someone, there are no barriers :/

To be honest, I have a feeling that if you go for it, something bad would be happen... I mean, if she tells you she had someone "committed", like seriously, to you? If I liked someone, i wouldn't say such thing to that someone.

Good luck.

[iSinnnn]

you in the friend zone brosef, do yourself a favor and don't ever talk to her again unless she starts the convo.

also, what dom said.

[*BlackFox]

You know shes done nothing wrong at all.
She told you from the begining that she was with someone else so whats the big shock anyway?

QFT

[Vaya]

Don't be so direct, even if the other guy is actually in the same state you can still have her.
Make her enjoy the time that she's spending with you to the most, be the funny interesting storyteller, even tell her a fake story about you fighting a bear, trust me she'll like it =P.
Tell her whatever you want to tell her as a joke, telling her that her eyes are beautiful with a pedo smile after won't get you anywhere, but telling her that in the middle of another conversation without giving much attention to it will make it less awkward.
Just don't tell her anything directly like what you said in this message, and remember that there's nothing guaranteed, all depends on your picture of yourself, if your keep thinking that she doesn't see you as anything more than a friend, you'll never get out of the friend zone, enough wall of text =D and goodluck.

[Nick Invaders]

Kinda worried now. Been 26 hours since she last responded to my texts.

I've kept going with maybe that she might give him up since long distance relationships don't work very well, especially if you hadn't seen the other person in 1.4 years?

And yes I screwed up in that text, don't remind me. I was tired and I did something stupid. While I can't say I have sent her texts saying that, I've sent others that would have obviously given away that I liked her, yet she never stopped me or anything.

I will get the chance to talk to her since well, we sit next to each other in physics. I'm not sure what is going to happen on Tuesday, but oh well.

Been 4 months since we first met, though for two of them she was working for NASA in a student program. Honestly those last two months of school were the best months of school, and all because of her.

At this point I think I'm just gonna try to make it so we're still friends, then decide what to do, which will probably end up in just friendship.

[TheDrop]

How old are you/she?

If she was already in a relationship dont think you shoulda been so open tat you liked her..

[Nick Invaders]

I'm 16, almost 17. She's 17.

She told me a while ago she was "committed" but that they weren't dating. If that clarifies anything which I guess it probably doesn't.

[TheDrop]

Well i gess she meant she was holding out for him (didnt wanna date others)

I think you should just chill, play it off as a joke.

[Nick Invaders]

Well i gess she meant she was holding out for him (didnt wanna date others)

I think you should just chill, play it off as a joke.

Well they still won't be able to date much. He still lives out of state and he's only visiting for the weekend.

And yea, I'm gonna play it off as a joke, not much else to do.

[antics]

her relationship wont last. at 17 esp + long distance.
shell move on(maybe not with you), get bored, or doubt what hes up to

[Nick Invaders]

That's what I've been thinking, but it's been a while. In any case, all I can do is wait.

[Mirosuke]

Well, yeah. Like antics said, she's young and long distance relationships won't work at her age that well. However... If she's really fond, if it's her first 'encounter', and overall an amateur typical teenager girl who likes a boy at first, your chances are pretty low. Either stay on friendzone or risk it and probably lose it for ever. Sometimes friendship is way better than a short relationship with bad ending.

[Nick Invaders]

Well, yeah. Like antics said, she's young and long distance relationships won't work at her age that well. However... If she's really fond, if it's her first 'encounter', and overall an amateur typical teenager girl who likes a boy at first, your chances are pretty low. Either stay on friendzone or risk it and probably lose it for ever. Sometimes friendship is way better than a short relationship with bad ending.

Yeah I'm considering just ending up with a friendship. It's senior year, and we most likely won't be going to the same college. If I wait long enough and it turns out she does like me, well okay, good for me. If not, hey, we're friends. I like her a lot and kinda want to risk it, but I'd rather have her as a friend than ruin it and never see her again.

[.curve]

I read "16 almost 17" and that was enough. Bro, you've been friends with a girl for 4 months and you're already stressing over her? You're posting stuff like "it's been 26 hours since she last responded to my text." That's sad.

The problem here is you. You've convinced yourself that there's something there when obviously there isn't. Also the weird psycho control-freak text didn't help your issue. If she's that committed to this guy AND it's long distance, chances are it will probably last a while. Save yourself the embarrassment and stop with the creepy texts though.

Also what dom said. Man's wise beyond his years.

[Nick Invaders]

I read "16 almost 17" and that was enough. Bro, you've been friends with a girl for 4 months and you're already stressing over her? You're posting stuff like "it's been 26 hours since she last responded to my text." That's sad.

The problem here is you. You've convinced yourself that there's something there when obviously there isn't. Also the weird psycho control-freak text didn't help your issue. If she's that committed to this guy AND it's long distance, chances are it will probably last a while. Save yourself the embarrassment and stop with the creepy texts though.

Also what dom said. Man's wise beyond his years.

Yeah I know. I tend to over think stuff a lot. And yea I admit the 26 hrs thing was kinda stupid. Hey I'm not perfect, I know I made a stupid mistake.

So yea, thanks for letting me know I fail at this. As if I didn't already know.

I've gotten over it, or I think I have, not perfectly though.

[BuDo]

I'll just keep this real...When you hook up with someone that you really like and they like you there tend to be an unspoken connection between the two of you..... You just feel it....Not much words needed....Obviously for you this ain't the case or else it wouldav happened already. Time to move on. You can still be friends with her no doubt but start looking elsewhere for another girl.

This so called "commitment" she's got going shouldav alerted you to the truth. Dude flew in to spend the weekend with her and I'd bet money he's tapping dat ass as we speak. Just the way it is man. If you allow this girl to have her way you'll probably always be the friend who she strings along knowing that you like her while she uses this as way to keep the dude she really likes on his toes. In other words when he's around you don't really matter but when he's not she's ok to hang with you. Which is exactly what it is now.

[Nick Invaders]

Yea , that's true. Considering not trying to find another girl during senior year. If something happens, I won't stop it, but I've got a lot of stuff to do (not much of it is related to school though).

In a way it did alert me to the truth. I was just hoping she'd be over it by now. She told me back in June she was "committed" and I knew that the person lived out of state. Until last week I had no idea it was still going on.

You know at first I thought something was there, you know back in May/June. But after she told me about the commitment and after summer, where I couldn't see her for two months because she worked at NASA, it just doesn't feel the same as it did before.

Anyway. Thanks guys.

[Fiction]

K thanks guys.

This weekend is not over yet T_T (and it's a 3 day weekend).
I think I'm just gonna lay low and not text her. Don't want to ruin it all on accident before I see her at school.

Yeah this is probably best, she doesn't need her phone blowin up when she's having a 3 day sex marathon with this guy from out of state, brah. Hell you might even wait until Thursday so she is back to walking normal. Hope this advice helped..

[Nick Invaders]

K thanks guys.

This weekend is not over yet T_T (and it's a 3 day weekend).
I think I'm just gonna lay low and not text her. Don't want to ruin it all on accident before I see her at school.

Yeah this is probably best, she doesn't need her phone blowin up when she's having a 3 day sex marathon with this guy from out of state, brah. Hell you might even wait until Thursday so she is back to walking normal. Hope this advice helped..

Could be 4
He arrived at about 9pm on Friday, and her last text was 1:35 am.
Don't like thinking about that though >.>

[Miguez]

Bro, you're 16/17, and you've been "seeing" this girl for 4 months with no action?

That has friend zone written all over it.

And as BuDo said, you can easily realize if there's any so called "chemistry" or not, and if there isn't, just move on. 16 is when you get to have fun and play around, meet different kinds of girls, see what you like, what you don't.

Don't waste 4 months with a girl you're not sure about, especially if she's "commited".

[inky]

Spoiler 1: She likes other guy, not you.

Spoiler 2: She is getting annoyed that you're reading into things that aren't there.


Any other questions?

For 1: Kay that hurts. But it wasn't coming totally unexpected.

For 2: mmk

Well that sucks.

And no, no other questions.

Oooooooohhhh..... ouch! lol

Well...if you want my advice on these matters, just always remember that sometimes, it's okay for a man to cry his heart out for a woman; it's always darkest before the dawn, there are a lot more fishes in the sea, and it's not you - it's her. If you truly love her, let her go.

[SM-Count]

lol @ this thread; I especially like the part where you agree with dom then ignore his post a couple minutes later.

So I'll reiterate: she's not into you, this doesn't mean you need to cast yourself off the highest cliff in your country or trek through the Tibetan mountains taking an oath of silence so you'll never talk to her again and shit, just act like nothing's different except stop trying to see secret hints that she might like you that aren't actually there.

If you guy returns your calls, texts you now and then, hangs out with you, it doesn't mean he wants to be inside your ass, she's being friendly to you because you're friends, not because, and I must reiterate this point again in case you forget in 20 minutes, she likes you. However, just because she doesn't like you romantically, doesn't mean you have to completely cut off texting her (unless of course you only talked to her because you thought it'd lead somewhere and not just as friends).

You cutting off contact with her is you being a prick, lashing out cause you got rejected - it's just immature and frankly stupid. Just talk to her like it's normal and she's just another friend.

I know your 16 and you've had a crush on her for 1203984 yrs and it's hard just to be friends and etc. etc. etc. But think about this situation from another perspective for a second. A girl doesn't like you, one girl does not like one guy. That's the simple situation, some girl doesn't like some guy and likes some other guy, get over it and don't lash out like a kid. (though I wouldn't blame you if you did, you only get to be a teenager once, might as well do stupid shit while you get the chance)

[inky]

You could be her bridesmaid or the godfather of their kids!
The one they're making while you're reading this...

[Nick Invaders]

lol @ this thread; I especially like the part where you agree with dom then ignore his post a couple minutes later.

Oh, I did huh...well I did mean that I'd still be her friend. At this point I've practically given up on the hope of a relationship, but I will wait and see what happens. If I can salvage something I'd like to keep the friendship.

So I'll reiterate: she's not into you, this doesn't mean you need to cast yourself off the highest cliff in your country or trek through the Tibetan mountains taking an oath of silence so you'll never talk to her again and shit, just act like nothing's different except stop trying to see secret hints that she might like you that aren't actually there.

If you guy returns your calls, texts you now and then, hangs out with you, it doesn't mean he wants to be inside your ass, she's being friendly to you because you're friends, not because, and I must reiterate this point again in case you forget in 20 minutes, she likes you. However, just because she doesn't like you romantically, doesn't mean you have to completely cut off texting her (unless of course you only talked to her because you thought it'd lead somewhere and not just as friends).


You cutting off contact with her is you being a prick, lashing out cause you got rejected - it's just immature and frankly stupid. Just talk to her like it's normal and she's just another friend.

I'm not actually cutting off contact with her. I sent her a text a couple hours ago asking if she's having fun, she hasn't responded yet. I'm trying to act normal. I was convinced by other people to continue texting, but I can't keep up a convo through texts if the other person hasn't responded yet. I do like her, but I value her as a friend too.

I know your 16 and you've had a crush on her for 1203984 yrs and it's hard just to be friends and etc. etc. etc. But think about this situation from another perspective for a second. A girl doesn't like you, one girl does not like one guy. That's the simple situation, some girl doesn't like some guy and likes some other guy, get over it and don't lash out like a kid. (though I wouldn't blame you if you did, you only get to be a teenager once, might as well do stupid shit while you get the chance)

I realize that just because I want her to like me, doesn't mean she really does like me. I may make stupid decisions every once in a while. But that's part of growing up. You make stupid mistakes and then try to not make those mistakes again.

You could be her bridesmaid or the godfather of their kids!
The one they're making while you're reading this...

I get the joke, but that wouldn't be beneficial for them not at the moment at least.

[Fiction]

Give me her # or Email, I can patch this up for you! I promise she'll be swinging from your ballz in no time. lolz?

Also don't listen to ppl with Green names! They are haters =P

[inky]

Asking the girl if she's having fun, given the situation makes you look like a jealous, anal-retentive reject. Kind of a passive aggressive way of indirectly trying to guilt trip her.

"Oh, I hope you're having fun...while I'm here, crying in the friend zone."

Lol let the couple have their fun time without trying to intrude (cock block).

[Nick Invaders]

Asking the girl if she's having fun, given the situation makes you look like a jealous, anal-retentive reject. Kind of a passive aggressive way of indirectly trying to guilt trip her.

"Oh, I hope you're having fun...while I'm here, crying in the friend zone."

Lol let the couple have their fun time without trying to intrude (cock block).

Oh, well I meant it as a friend....
Why is there a hidden meaning for everything, intentional or not >.>

[Miguez]

So you want to get in her while trying to be her friend at the same time? It's too soon for that, most girls that age fall for jerks, not for a nice, friendly guy who's always there for her when she needs him.