Asking her out

[.curve]

pros way

you meet the girl, you get her number, you wait 3 days, you phone her and ask her out, you make out with her, you wait 1 or 2 days, you phone for another date, you meet up with her, you have sex


thanks.

Wait. You ask a girl out over the phone?

[Fiction]

Asking out on a date or asking out to be your girlfriend?

Date, once you feel a connection. To be your girlfriend, aka going steady, probably at least 3+ dates.

^This

Big difference between the two.

Worst part is when you wanna "ask her out" and you start thinking... Ehm so I just say, "will you go out with me" then you start thinking, "WTF am I in middle school?" Then you meet up with her and you realize she's got a penis.

[Mirosuke]

Well, whats with Asking her on a date? there is likeness/love involved isn't? I think any girl would accept it if she feels comfortable with(hence Blind Dates).

My main question was asking to be your girlfriend.
what do you say? ^ "Do you want to be my girlfriend?", "Do you wanna go out with me?" middle school? xD why so?

[Skyve]

pros way

you meet the girl, you get her number, you wait 3 days, you phone her and ask her out, you make out with her, you wait 1 or 2 days, you phone for another date, you meet up with her, you have sex


thanks.

Wait. You ask a girl out over the phone?

Depends what he meant by "ask her out". Think he means actually asking her to go out somewhere.

[MrTwilliger]

Oh christ, don't tell me SRF is going through fucking puberty again >_>

Stop over analysing everything, stop making methodologies and just do what comes naturally. We are people, we are dynamic by nature. Just roll with it.

[IceCrash]

yeah, the less serious and unconventional you make the going out the best it could be because both have more freedom + stuff to talk about comes with what you're doing + she knows you're not putting her on a pedestal so you should be pretty used to having ladees around you because you guys are just hanging out you know, you didn't go out of your course just to do something with&for her

i guess it will depend on the kind of person you are too but honestly, don't be afraid to ask for advice, we're men, we're supposed to help each other on how to get to swim in the ocean you know

[_Clitrix_]

Oh christ, don't tell me SRF is going through fucking puberty again >_>

Stop over analysing everything, stop making methodologies and just do what comes naturally. We are people, we are dynamic by nature. Just roll with it.

The smart one.

[LaloHao]

Let a girl know off the bat that you are interested in her but not by asking her out right away. The type of conversations you have with her and simply the way you look at her can be enough. No need to do the obvious things like flowers etc. Instead just do the simple things to show her you like her. Based on how she reacts you can then ask her out (or not). Most girls need space and time to realize whether they'd go out with you. Especially if they've never thought about you in that way before.


If you are clearly showing her signs that you dig her and she ain't reacting to it in the way you hope then just forget it. I know it can be hard if find that you are in love with her but just forget it and try to continue being friends. Better than blurting out that you want to date her and create an awkward situation that may threatened your existing friendship. When someone likes you in the same way you like them it normally doesn't take long before you start to date.

I think this is the only guy here who knows what he's talking about.

In life, you just can't overanalyze everything, by the time you think you know what to do it's too late to act.

When you like someone just invite her, never tell her directly you like her, it will make you look needy, nobody likes those kind of people, the game of life is all played indirectly. You need to ask her out, and SHE will decide if she wants or not, there's no point of thinking "will i like her?" "what if she rejects me?", just do it and if she is not interested in you just move on, don't ever waste your time on someone who isn't gonna give you part of his/her life.

[Miguez]

pros way

you meet the girl, you get her number, you wait 3 days, you phone her and ask her out, you make out with her, you wait 1 or 2 days, you phone for another date, you meet up with her, you have sex


thanks.

Wait. You ask a girl out over the phone?

If she's not a girl who goes to the same school as you or lives considerably far then I don't see any problem at all.

[Doron]

few days, always get a yes. Or they ask me~ which I like more.

But then again, who am I to talk in a asking HER out thread.

[IceCrash]

Let a girl know off the bat that you are interested in her but not by asking her out right away. The type of conversations you have with her and simply the way you look at her can be enough. No need to do the obvious things like flowers etc. Instead just do the simple things to show her you like her. Based on how she reacts you can then ask her out (or not). Most girls need space and time to realize whether they'd go out with you. Especially if they've never thought about you in that way before.


If you are clearly showing her signs that you dig her and she ain't reacting to it in the way you hope then just forget it. I know it can be hard if find that you are in love with her but just forget it and try to continue being friends. Better than blurting out that you want to date her and create an awkward situation that may threatened your existing friendship. When someone likes you in the same way you like them it normally doesn't take long before you start to date.

I think this is the only guy here who knows what he's talking about.

In life, you just can't overanalyze everything, by the time you think you know what to do it's too late to act.

When you like someone just invite her, never tell her directly you like her, it will make you look needy, nobody likes those kind of people, the game of life is all played indirectly. You need to ask her out, and SHE will decide if she wants or not, there's no point of thinking "will i like her?" "what if she rejects me?", just do it and if she is not interested in you just move on, don't ever waste your time on someone who isn't gonna give you part of his/her life.

oh man

[LaloHao]

So, what happened?

[Mirosuke]

^ What happened what? :c

Well, I didn't ask it for me, I was curious and just wondered. ( I has gf.)

Btw guys, new question: Would you have sex with a good random looking girl when prompted? Let's say you don't have condoms, and she's really horny... she wants to do it NAO. Would you?
In other hand, no condoms and you have girlfriend. She won't know it. Would you?!

[IceCrash]

no condomns, no fun.

[Miguez]

I'd never do it with no condomn.

[SneakyBanana]

I've been going out with my girlfriend for coming up to 3 and a half years now.

When I first met her, my best friend was going out with her best friend but to be honest we were onyl friends at the start, I did want to go out with her but I first wanted to make sure she was good enough first.

After knowing her for a month or two I asked if she wanted to "meet" me which here is like a pre-dating thing, you kiss and hang out but no ties or anything.

Then after 3 months of that I asked her out offically, well I waited until she asked me, I didn't want to sound like a want.

About my ex's well, I am not the breakup person and I'm a girl's guy so my break ups are usually bad and over stupid things as I prefer to chill with girls to guys..I'm a flirt! so when a breakup comes I just stop all contact as I don't like breaking hearts face to face.

[SneakyBanana]

^ What happened what? :c

Well, I didn't ask it for me, I was curious and just wondered. ( I has gf.)

Btw guys, new question: Would you have sex with a good random looking girl when prompted? Let's say you don't have condoms, and she's really horny... she wants to do it NAO. Would you?
In other hand, no condoms and you have girlfriend. She won't know it. Would you?!

I'd never had sex with a chick without comdoms that I didn't know, before I had sex with my girlfriend of 3 and half years I made sure she was checked out and I got myself checked out for STI's.

Now I save the money I used to use on condoms, she is on the pill as well as I don't want no mini me's popping out anytime soon.

[only_me]

tutorial on how to ask her out:
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[cpinney]

condom? no fun.

[Mirosuke]

I'd never do it with no condomn.

Not even after a check? Not planning to have kids?

Wonder if its safe to do it even if I got a check and my gf is using pills...

[woutR]

Every second you wait is a second closer to the friendzone. Trust me I know from experience, I let a good thing die by not taking action soon enough and when I did I was completely friendzoned. I even got the classic "I like you, but only as a friend".
Sure, it happens, and may have happened if I had gone for it earlier too. But the longer you don't make a move, the more time she has to think of you as just a friend.

[Miguez]

I'd never do it with no condomn.

Not even after a check? Not planning to have kids?

Wonder if its safe to do it even if I got a check and my gf is using pills...

Obviously if you want kids you wont use a condomn lol.

But I don't plan on having kids anytime soon so yeah..

[Toasty]

Walk through the street.

See someone you like the look of - then ask her out.

Just think how many people you see through the streets. Surely at least one of them will say yes.

Profit?

[IceCrash]

kind of, you see, most hot women will just completly blow away any man that does such approach

but ofc, there'd always be one fat or not ugly or not chick who'd stay for 2 mins then leave

[MrTwilliger]

Walk through the street.

See someone you like the look of - then ask her out.

Just think how many people you see through the streets. Surely at least one of them will say yes.

Profit?

1. Be social, meet people. Don't hide away from reality and embrace it.
2. Get to know people, socialise, develop friendships through natural communications and relations.
3. Develop bond naturally between said person without forcing them. Embrace your new connection and don't neglect it. Still, don't try and create it, either. Always leads to disaster.
4. You don't ask the girl out as officialness don't matter. Do what comes naturally, feelings occur, they get expressed, soon you fall for each other.
5. Fall in love, have 3 kids, move into a white picket house and literally bitch about the Smith's next door.
6. Grow old together, love each other, embrace your life together.
7. She dies.
8. ???
9. Rant on gaming forums about how true love is developed.

[KrizZ]

I actually have a pretty funny story. All of you said, you should be friends, and wait 1-2 months or so. I met a girl, and we were friends for exactly one week. I asked her out that day and she said yes, but wanted to keep it just between us. I later found out, that she really liked some other guy, before she met me, and we decided to be just friends, until she decides who she wants. So about 6 months later, (OMG!!!) I asked her out, and things have been pretty good until then. We are together 1 year and nearly 4 months, so yeah, its all good .

[Mirosuke]

I actually have a pretty funny story. All of you said, you should be friends, and wait 1-2 months or so. I met a girl, and we were friends for exactly one week. I asked her out that day and she said yes, but wanted to keep it just between us. I later found out, that she really liked some other guy, before she met me, and we decided to be just friends, until she decides who she wants. So about 6 months later, (OMG!!!) I asked her out, and things have been pretty good until then. We are together 1 year and nearly 4 months, so yeah, its all good .

That girl was despo, looked like she wanted a "fill" with you in case this other guy doesn't work. But finally it had a happy ending ah? haha. that's nice!

[KrizZ]

Nah, its because i moved there, and i was new, and she ended up liking both of us. she never talked with the other guy, idk, was kinda weird, she told me she really liked me, but just wasnt ready, and all that crap. But, i gotta say im glad i waited