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keep up a relationship with your Ex. And if so how far into that relationship do you take it. Keeping in touch, friends, close friends, friends with benefits. I don't want to know your theories and im not interested in the experience of anyone -16. I want to hear from people who've been in a serious relationship at least 9 months and have an ex that they deal with or choose not to deal with.

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Friends-Close Friends

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Friends with benefits?
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XemnasXD wrote:im not interested in the experience of anyone -16.

Dang it :(

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well me and my ex broke up over 7 months ago..the day we broke up i deleted my ex from my myspace friends list hahaha
about 4 months later and no conversation or nething i got a friends request from my ex and i accepted..we make small talk here and there and thats it..

really just depends on the terms of your break up...
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XemnasXD wrote:keep up a relationship with your Ex. And if so how far into that relationship do you take it. Keeping in touch, friends, close friends, friends with benefits. I don't want to know your theories and im not interested in the experience of anyone -16. I want to hear from people who've been in a serious relationship at least 9 months and have an ex that they deal with or choose not to deal with.

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forgive me if im wrong, but i thought u are a homosexual?
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really depends on the terms you or her ended it on mate, with my ex-girlfriend who i dated for 11 months, i stayed close friends with her mainly because we both agreed that the relationship worked better as friends.
But if shes been sleeping around or a total bitch to you whats the real point in being friends with her other than the chance of doing the horizontal-folk-dance?
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ThiefzV2 wrote:
XemnasXD wrote:keep up a relationship with your Ex. And if so how far into that relationship do you take it. Keeping in touch, friends, close friends, friends with benefits. I don't want to know your theories and im not interested in the experience of anyone -16. I want to hear from people who've been in a serious relationship at least 9 months and have an ex that they deal with or choose not to deal with.

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forgive me if im wrong, but i thought u are a homosexual?


what are you trying to troll this thread for?
despite sexual orientation there wasnt any clear pronunciation on whether xemnas's ex was a girl or guy..
so where are u trying to go with this?
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ThiefzV2 wrote:
XemnasXD wrote:keep up a relationship with your Ex. And if so how far into that relationship do you take it. Keeping in touch, friends, close friends, friends with benefits. I don't want to know your theories and im not interested in the experience of anyone -16. I want to hear from people who've been in a serious relationship at least 9 months and have an ex that they deal with or choose not to deal with.

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forgive me if im wrong, but i thought u are a homosexual?

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Keeping a normal relationship with an Ex is hard, especially when you find a new love toy.

A friend of mine, was in a 6y relationship. He and his Ex still call eachother multiple times a week.

It has ruined several new relationships.

I'm not saying block him/her out, but be sure to know that it's your EX. and an Ex as a best friend is not gonna be helpfull. Most of the times that is.
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With my Ex-Girlfriend I keep a close friendship with her. She is a wonderful friend, but not such a wonderful girlfriend. I don't believe in friends with benefits. I don't really hang out with my Ex anymore either, where as when we were going out we were constantly together. That is maybe what wrecked it.
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Well i haven't had a relationship over the time period you mention but i shall explain my situations.

My most recent ex i broke up with 9 months ago. We still talk and occasionally hang, were friend. My ex before that would have to be one of my best friends. Her bf i fucking love, hes a total legend. I dont see a reason to hate your ex. If im willing to go out with someone, why would i not want to be there friend afterwards? >_<

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My ex is still one of my best friends.
No benefits though.
Failed to get to 9 months though, I think it were 8.5 xD.

I guess it differs from the situation and on how both people cope with the break up.

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You are really on wrong forum pal, really on wrong forum.
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Nitro wrote:You are really on wrong forum pal, really on wrong forum.

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Xem stop having sex with your ex!
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I was with my ex for 8 and a half years, just before we split we decided to stay friends. But we have been apart for a year and a half now and have only seen him once. I think it really depends if there are any feelings there still and how you split. But one thing don't stay friends just for sex, that is a big NO NO in my eyes.

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It's always good to have time after a relationship to 'cool down'. And if you have a reason to hate them its even better, and much easier. It sounds silly. But if you try to keep in touch with them/keep talking to them, your just gonna get clingy again and you won't get over them.

My ex. She broke up with me. I was still talking to her though. Then about a week later. She hooked up some guy, and realized that she still had feelings for me. However, when I found out about it, it made ME realized that I no longer had feelings for her (closure I suppose). For about 2 months then, she still had feelings for me, and continuing to talk to me made it even harder for her.

Anyway. My point.

As long as you've had a 'cool down' with no, or very little contact of a few months. Then there is no reason why you can't be friends.

To be honest I had to double take when I saw thread like this from Xem, but meh :P
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I think if you actually love a person you never truly stop loving them no matter what even if you can't stand the sight of them. Well me and my ex dated for about 2 years and the ending terms was i just got so tired of the relationship i basically stopped coming around, then we talked about it and i basically told him he was a terrible bf and everything that went wrong in all his relationships were his fault blah blah blah didn't talk for a month after that, wait a month, things cooled down, we're friends again but he hasn't fund anyone new and neither have I so when we get alone together >>

problem is thats all im interested in and he keeps getting to emotional about the whole thing. I don't want to do anything further cause it'll make me hate him. I mean literally sometimes as soon as we're done i'll just kick him out cause i don't want to hear his voice (he's not the greatest conversationalist but he tries). I just wanted to hear from experienced ppl how relationships normally end thanks for the perspectives but from what you guys are saying i think i know im doing something wrong here <<
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XemnasXD wrote:keep up a relationship with your Ex. And if so how far into that relationship do you take it. Keeping in touch, friends, close friends, friends with benefits. I don't want to know your theories and im not interested in the experience of anyone -16. I want to hear from people who've been in a serious relationship at least 9 months and have an ex that they deal with or choose not to deal with.

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i became close friends with an ex who cheated on me from the word go, so yeh its possible though that relationship didnt last long stil experiance counts
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Been friend with my ex (we were together for 4 years) for a long time now. I definitely love him but he was an ass once and he got his friend pregnant and when he told me about it, i really wanted to kill him. However he decided to stay with the mother of his baby and be a good dad and meh (which i even adviced him to do so).

We use to talk a lot now. What you said about "once you love some1 somehow you're still loving that person" (more or less, or a lil) it's true, i find that person very special to me.

We've met before and sometimes i feel like huggin him and to tell him that i miss him, but at the same time i know nothing new cant happen since i dont want to ruin his relationship with his family (besides i know his wife :P ).

I believe you still can keep a good relationship with your ex, you're "mature" enough to know your limits, keep the good moments of the past in your mind and remember those as a good phase in your life; or at least that's what i've been doing. Give him a call sometimes and keep him updated about how you're doing and what not. Meet him sometimes and chit chat, i dont know! So many things! lol :love:
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keep havin sex with ur ex, but NEVER NEVER NEVER fall in love again.
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Yes its possible to be friends.
I was with my ex for 2 years, and we arent together about 4 months now. We are still close friends, very close since she is best person I ever meet. When she have problems, Im the first she talk to, same for me. But to be honest, dunno how is all this gona look like when have new GF or she new BF. Its still obvious we have some feeling left.
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when my first girlfriend and i broke up, we were good friends in high school but i havnt spoken to her since then

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you shouldnt post this here...

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sex with the ex = hawt.

I love it.

I've had well,, not really a 9 month, but more like a 7-ish month and it was just all so perfect...

then it went downhill, cuz I didn't have enough time for her. It was breaking her down, so we ended it.

Now, on the occasional times we're friends with befits, on other times just friends. we MSNz and mail occ.
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