Lack In Selfcontrol

[iGod]

Music, something brutal enough to make you numb, I suggest black metal. :p

[Doron]

or just punch something fluffy.

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[Pan_Raider(`_´)]

or just punch something fluffy.

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but they will seek vengeance on you and turn you into their slaves.

go figure

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[Love]

I am very emotional and lose fast the control of my actions. How can I become more calm?

stop caring

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[caseyd4]

Personally I love how people associate certain things with attitudes and modes. Be it Yoga or sport, gaming or anger.

I Like to believe that even when Angry someone can Find peace of mind.

Anyway back to post.

Grandpa, always enjoy reading your posts, and I agree not only is it probably unlawful to injure yourself or property it’s pretty darn stupid.



Back to myself and how to change your self control.
Self Control is not something I believe you can simply just apply to anything or learn in one way to apply to everything. The "Lack" of self control you speak of has to be broken down.

Ok For example, I know I get carried away in conversations alot and HAVE to win it.
I also know that for many years I had problems controlling my own thoughts. It doesn’t sound bad but try thinking about how a leaf falls, then how the air falls or holds around it, the molecules effected the potential energy sources the laws of gravity....etc. etc. not very Healthy

Now for me both these incidents are examples of lack of control; one the inability to control my speech the other my thoughts, one emotionally driven, the other involuntary.

Now as I believe everything in life has its balance I think all things we wish to do are, in their balanced states good for us. The ability to force a conversation to a single conclusion is famously shown to be a fantastic attribute by Plato.
Where as I believe that the involuntary actions of the body should not control us at all, but run as a background programme, only showing when in error.


I found two completely different solutions to my problems.
Early, back in my child hood when 14 I found a rowing club, I Idolised my uncle at the time, he joined I joined. I found sport and a new addiction to which I would become much indebted for my education. At this time and for several years after I struggled with my thoughts, what I found though was a way to escape all thought. Run Hard, Run Fast, Train hard, I became fit, VERY fit. Competed in Tri-athelons and stuff and done very well. What I found was a place in my head where I could go that only one thing mattered. GOING FAST AND HARD, thoughts aren't needed here all I needed was mechanics; arms, legs, heart and lungs. I can to this day still remember this place, although at the time I could just get there by doing it, by remembering the feeling the smell and closing my eyes, I reach back to those moments and can shut off my thoughts completely.
For the Second of my problems, I must say I feel that in finding my sport addiction I boosted my ability and therefore lack of control in conversation even further. The Answer for this I can truly say was not of my own finding, I have found the love of my life and after a year of being together and many conversations on this very topic I have decided to use her as my place to go to when I know I really have to SHUT up.

What can I say about these places to help you then? Well in my opinion Lack of Self Control is not something that controls your life, maybe as I have shown its a lack of controlling your body’s or minds wants and needs, I could go into how it may also be a "Freudian" type Slip of the tongue but I rather not cloud the issue. It is for me a thing you have to divide to conquer, find where you seem to be going wrong, indentify it and then try to find a place where you seem to find sanctuary from it. I can't tell you where to look as I am not you, but just a little hint the world is a big place, get out there and try new things. It’s only in trying something that you can say you like it or not, and someday you might find something that can be your peace of mind and sanctuary

[Grandpa]

I Like to believe that even when Angry someone can Find peace of mind.

Anyway back to post.

Grandpa, always enjoy reading your posts, and I agree not only is it probably unlawful to injure yourself or property it’s pretty darn stupid.

May I return the compliment? Your post here touched me as well.

To quote you, "Anyway back to post":
Those of you who have given me the pleasure of exchanging private messages may already be familiar with what I call "the path to peace". It started with a daydream that I had while young and much in prayer.
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I saw myself in a field surrounded by mountains. The late summer air was calm and the sunlight enhanced the beauty of the wild flowers scattered seemingly for me alone on the left and right of the trail. As I walked it was as if each slight rise and fall of the field before me drew me onward to a unknown goal. Time itself seemed to stretch & luxuriate, as the warmth of the wind was felt as welcomed kisses upon my face.

The search for a place of inner peace, a peace that went beyond my understanding, beckoned me onward. My journey in the imagined field of wildflowers sloped gradually upward toward a distinct ridge. I was drawn to the crest that appeared in my mind... the crest and the mystery beyond. As I approached the the end of the upward portion of my travels I noticed subtle changes to my surroundings. My sense of smell was heightened and the awareness of the abundance of life surrounding me on all sides offered a sense of awe and intrigue. Have you ever stood at the base of a waterfall, eyes closed, and simply breathed in the magnificence? It was like that, but more. Clarity was in the air, each breath inhaled with it a greater sense of understanding. Clarity. The wind stilled and a profound sense of self greeted me with a smile.

Suddenly there! As I peered over the crest and caught my breath... THERE! A small still lake perfectly reflecting the sky above stood before me and I understood the hope of the vision that I was being offered. Skipping over the trail toward the lake was my only natural reaction to the reflected beauty and promise that was found. Childhood recaptured itself into the steps I took after my first timid look transformed itself and burst in full bloom onto the canvas of my mind. The Lake of Peace.

At the shore of the lake several things occurred to me. Profound respect found expression in my movement as I entered the waters. Only the most gentle ripples were seen in the surface and the journey continued while my focus changed from inner person to outer being. What was the purpose of peace???

Would it be possible for me to become so still that I no longer disturbed the calm reflective surface of the water? What was movement? While immersed my thoughts examined the forces that caused movement within the inner me and as I began to lose myself and become more and more a part of the waters, as I began to quiet and still my heart an idea formed. If I were able to still myself sufficiently it should become easier to understand and interpret the motions of others. I would become a better agent of understanding with the quieting of my own spirit.
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There are many views that can help one understand those things that are common to man. Where one person bespeaks their inability to control their mind and site examples of "thinking about how a leaf falls, then how the air falls or holds around it, the molecules effected the potential energy sources the laws of gravity....etc. etc," one might think of modern descriptions of ADD or ADHD (Attention Deficit). Another might contemplate the discipline needed to focus to such a degree and find beauty there. Mark Phelps might come to mind. Will the beauty of divergence ever be appreciated?

And the priestess spoke again and said:

"Speak to us of Reason and Passion."

And he answered saying:

Your soul is oftentimes a battlefield, upon which your reason and your judgment wage war against passion and your appetite.

Would that I could be the peacemaker in your soul, that I might turn the discord and the rivalry of your elements into oneness and melody.

But how shall I, unless you yourselves be also the peacemakers, nay, the lovers of all your elements?

Your reason and your passion are the rudder and the sails of your seafaring soul.

If either your sails or our rudder be broken, you can but toss and drift, or else be held at a standstill in mid-seas.

For reason, ruling alone, is a force confining; and passion, unattended, is a flame that burns to its own destruction.

Therefore let your soul exalt your reason to the height of passion; that it may sing;

And let it direct your passion with reason, that your passion may live through its own daily resurrection, and like the phoenix rise above its own ashes.

I would have you consider your judgment and your appetite even as you would two loved guests in your house.

Surely you would not honor one guest above the other; for he who is more mindful of one loses the love and the faith of both.

Among the hills, when you sit in the cool shade of the white poplars, sharing the peace and serenity of distant fields and meadows - then let your heart say in silence, "God rests in reason."

And when the storm comes, and the mighty wind shakes the forest, and thunder and lightning proclaim the majesty of the sky, - then let your heart say in awe, "God moves in passion."

And since you are a breath In God's sphere, and a leaf in God's forest, you too should rest in reason and move in passion.

~Granps

[Love]

i dont know about you guys but i actually have to put effort into getting mad, seriously o.O

[XemnasXD]

http://www.southparkstudios.com/clips/103440/?tag=Ritalin

[Dark Shifty]

I am very emotional and lose fast the control of my actions. How can I become more calm?

Beat your meat

MAN THE HARPOONS!


we got a beached whale!

Spoiler!

i took this pic in my cis class today. kinda hard to take notes with a whale in front of ya...

[CloudStrider]

I have something like that.

I am prone to EXCESSIVE guilt, sometimes for nothing, it can really get me down.

[Priam]

Did someone suggest drugs? if not, I just did.

[heroo]

why is it always seen as a bad thing?

you know, you become angry for a reason, so no problem doing something about it

[Dancin]

a lot of very nice answers here. I'll think about this suggestions

but they will seek vengeance on you and turn you into their slaves.

go figure

You speak from experience?

Punch yourself...
When your getting mad punch your shoulder as hard as you can
Works for me

I tried it out doesn't work

[Grimjaw]

MAN THE HARPOONS!


we got a beached whale!

WTB Gastric Bypass.

[Doron]

I just recently found out that Happy Slapping is the answer to everything.

Cuz you can slap, and it makes you happy...

But! do remember to take off rings and such when happyslapping, especially ones with big rocks in it, because it will leave a mark.

Found out with one the maids...

[Reise]

Remind yourself how much better you are than everyone else.

Works for me every time.

[-Evan]

Remind yourself how much better you are than everyone else.

Works for me every time.

That or listening to music(metal for me) works for me.

[magisuns]

HOW DO U GET MAD? =\
i'm 2 calm to actually get mad. * A fight virgin *

[wootpops]

even when i get mad rarely it takes alot and i calm down really fast. just stop and think about the situation and why your mad. and ask if you are angry for a good reason or a silly reason.

[pizzagirl2008]

if ur mad - go play SRO and pwn some noob turks

[marjin_boo]

I'm always going berzerk when those GD noobs are on a holiday in OTL and leave all their garbage in here...

But something relevant to my interestz always calms me down.

You must hate all of SRF O.O

No, it's just those people like Pinaylovesnukes and that guy with the pic of a Turk Farm or something.

They are a shame for SRF, and should keep their garbage in GD.

You see, you at least contribute in the OTL, those guys are just...

*throws up*

I think you need some meditation yourself. Or maybe some sunshine will help you.