Squirt wrote:NEVER got to my grandmas house in the carribeans. hispanic people over there are STRICT
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My mother hitted me once, when i was like 10 years old because i got in troubles at school, and i remeber in the very instant after she hitted me, she started to cry a lot, she apologized and told me she had a very hard day. Every time she remembers about that she feels sorry.
I dont think hitting a children works, i saw my friends being hitted lots of times by his parents and they are not much different from me. There is a big difference between respect your parents and fear them.
It's never OK to hit a child, my mother works in the field of child developement. she says that there are better ways of teaching a child on how to behave and hitting the child can lead to some mental/social problems later in life. If you where to hit a child in form of punishment they should at least do it with in legal bounds.
X-Lax wrote:It's never OK to hit a child, my mother works in the field of child developement. she says that there are better ways of teaching a child on how to behave and hitting the child can lead to some mental/social problems later in life. If you where to hit a child in form of punishment they should at least do it with in legal bounds.
if you scream and yell at the kid it will also cause mental/social problems... moderation is the key
i think hitting your kid if he does something horribly wrong is ok. If your going to be a nice parent and let your kid off, your going to screw his life over. For example cheating on a test or doing drugs, you need to slap the hoe out of your kid so he`ll never do it again...because the future consequences is going to be a lot worse than a sore ass.
BUT i dont think you should hit a kid all the time for every little thing. I know this kid who gets hit because he doesnt move fast enough to do an errand, seriously wtf. He told me that his dad broke a stick over his back when he was little. And now he tells me unless your parents do that you will be spoiled. I told him to stfu because im not spoiled and my parents hit me only 3 or 4 times ever.
people like him and his parents are the reasons why there are child abusers. This kid is wierd, I`ll tell you that, he`s violent. Must be because his dad was so violent on him. Everytime he sees something gory, he becomes happy. I see a future serial killer in the making.
I still have half a mind to call child abuse center. People like his dad should be jailed the f*ck up. And whats worse is that he`s super religious. WTF kind of religious person hits his own kid like that? I thought religion was about love and peace..guess not
i've been spanked a couple of times when i was young, they stopped hitting me when i was 7, then they turned to serious talks and yelling. i respect them and love them, and i know they will never purposely hurt me. i don't fear them at all. it's all about moderation.
my theory is spank them young, then talk to them when they're old enough to understand.
X-Lax wrote:hitting the child can lead to some mental/social problems later in life.
Good. We need more mental/social "problems" in life, because these "problems" are all constructed by society. The more "problems" there are, the more they become the norm, and if you ask me, the people who live the best lives are the ones with "problems".
X-Lax wrote:hitting the child can lead to some mental/social problems later in life.
Good. We need more mental/social "problems" in life, because these "problems" are all constructed by society. The more "problems" there are, the more they become the norm, and if you ask me, the people who live the best lives are the ones with "problems".
The mental problems I'm talking about are phobias, depression and drug abuse.
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Jstar1 wrote:i think hitting your kid if he does something horribly wrong is ok. If your going to be a nice parent and let your kid off, your going to screw his life over. For example cheating on a test or doing drugs, you need to slap the hoe out of your kid so he`ll never do it again...because the future consequences is going to be a lot worse than a sore ass.
BUT i dont think you should hit a kid all the time for every little thing. I know this kid who gets hit because he doesnt move fast enough to do an errand, seriously wtf. He told me that his dad broke a stick over his back when he was little. And now he tells me unless your parents do that you will be spoiled. I told him to stfu because im not spoiled and my parents hit me only 3 or 4 times ever.
people like him and his parents are the reasons why there are child abusers. This kid is wierd, I`ll tell you that, he`s violent. Must be because his dad was so violent on him. Everytime he sees something gory, he becomes happy. I see a future serial killer in the making.
I still have half a mind to call child abuse center. People like his dad should be jailed the f*ck up. And whats worse is that he`s super religious. WTF kind of religious person hits his own kid like that? I thought religion was about love and peace..guess not
i dont think it is needed. i was never hit, and im not spoiled or anything at all. maybe for some kids it might help, but for me it was fine like this.
CrimsonNuker wrote:I Has Asian Parents I've endured the bamboo stick, metal hangers, plastic hangers, flippers, the "ground = beatings" game amd many more
To a degree it is fine
same here... whenever my father catch me talking back to my mom, i get introduced to his very strong back hand lol...
MY father whipped me with a belt on my ass once when I was in kindergaten because I couldn't sleep and I kept waking him up. Now I want to fight him UFC style
hitting your children is good, but not to harsh or it will be an abuse. you must hit your children in order for them to listen and respect you and to teach them who's boss. If you don't hit your children they will grow up just like american children. STRICT PARENTS=GOOD CHILDREN
I think there's nothing wrong with a correcting hit on the backside on rare occasions. My dad did it to me and my brothers, and in hindsight I'm grateful. In the 7 years I had a stepdaughter I have given her 2 spankings, both times because she refused to listen to reason, even after a long debate. I only accept it as a last resort however, and only in a correcting way; never a beating. There's great alternatives, like a cold shower (my dad did that to my brother ones when he was hysterical; just grabbed him, and put him under a cold shower (with his clothes on); calmed him down quite quickly ).
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Beating works to a point. Its best at a younger age and in painful, quick dose( a slap, flick, whip) as a reminder of not to do something, the same way you learn not to touch fire. As the child matures beatings become taken as less of a reminder and more of an assertion of power. Power gained through force is a tyrant power and more often then not will lead to the child rebelling then or later on in life. By the time the child matures the parent child relationship should be based on respect and discipline. Clear boundries of right and wrong, what is acceptable and what is not should be in place and punishment should be severe without the need for physical abuse, say No cellphone, grounded, no Tv, no internet, for 3 months. While the child will probably rebel against these restrictions, if they are used properly and not abused they can replace the physical pain as a reminder against right and wrong. Most teenagers remember what it would be like for 3 months without internet, and it would be painful.
All of this however will only work if the parent is active in the childs life. Parents should know friends, friends parents, teachers, coaches, etc and try to stay as up to date as possible without being overbearing. If your a lazy parent don't expect your kid to take you seriously and beatings won't work because by then its just abuse and yoru just a lazy parent who's a bully.
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what you have to do is beat the living shit out of them really bad one time, like have their limbs crack, blood running down every orifice in their body and then be like dont make me ever do that again or ill use a chainsaw and a carrot. then they'll never do anything again.
MrFudge wrote:what you have to do is beat the living shit out of them really bad one time, like have their limbs crack, blood running down every orifice in their body and then be like dont make me ever do that again or ill use a chainsaw and a carrot. then they'll never do anything again.
My Mum hit me a lot.. I tent to hit someone close to me when I am angry or upset, I don't know if it has anything to do with when I was younger. The last time my Mum hit me, I hit her back. Then she never done it again.
I personally wouldn't hit my child, I just find it wrong, there are other ways of punishment other then hitting.
raysisfenix wrote:hitting your children is good, but not to harsh or it will be an abuse. you must hit your children in order for them to listen and respect you and to teach them who's boss. If you don't hit your children they will grow up just like american children. STRICT PARENTS=GOOD CHILDREN
i agree with you 110%!!! the only time i ever get spanked/hit was if i messed up or did something very bad, and when i talk back to my mom or dad. recently i've just became a dad myself, and there is no way in hell im letting my child grow up in the US :p.
I got hit with 'the boomerang sandal' and with sticks and belts when I was a kid.
Now, I won't hit my child...but I will punish them severely.
One idea I have is something I have seen done on the children of an ex-military. Its called "The Hotseat". Basically, you put your hands on the wall, move your feet away from the wall, spread them apart(20inch), and squat, ALMOST hitting the floor. You have to stay in that position for as long as commanded. In the case that I watched, it was only 30mins. Their legs were shaking and they couldn't get up from the 'hotseat' position. Great punishment IMO.
you have to have moderation, you have to talk with them also hit them(when they are 6 or younger), cuz then u they will learn to respect their parents, bad thing now if a parent hit their kid, they call the police on them, which will make the kids grow up not respecting their parents, and 90% of the time they will just not care about school or anything
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