Sorry for the late reply, guys. I've been at work all day, and when we were driving home, my mom got into a car crash. It was rush hour, and car in front of her kept going and stopping, and going, and stopping, you know? And she's always thinking about god knows what. I was asleep, and I hear her scream. Next thing I know, I hear a crash, and I'm wrenched forward. But it's alright because, well, it was rush hour, so everyone was moving really slow, hehe. Crazy, though, because the car in front of her crashed into another car, and ironically, the lady two cars in front of us that got crashed as well, was some sort of lawyer or something to deal with people who have died / lost limbs or something in auto accidents, rofl.
Totally okay, though, so back to the problem.
First of all, just want to say THANK YOU SO MUCH to everyone who's replied, with some helpful stuff. Once again,
SRF, and thank you guys for being here for a stranger that you don't even know.
cin wrote:ive been in some relationships but never in one with like the love of my life.
the longest relationship ive been in so far lasted about 2 months i think. i have
however adviced many of my friends and my brothers what they should do,
and im pretty damn good at it.
Isn't that the damn truth...
Luoma wrote:A few years ago, when i was the same age as you probably. I was together
with a girl for about 4 months, we had a fun time together but then suddenly
she said she couldn't go to where ever we were going "sorry my leg hurts".
So i was like, fine ok but then she kept saying it and dumped me 3 days
later, 1 day before our class were going on a field trip. And guess what
half way through it she was making out with a friend of mine. ANYWAY she
was only together with that guy this one night then she wanted me back.
She sent almost 100 sms's and kept calling me, putting notes in my locker
"I'm sorry! I don't know why i did that! Please i know we belong together."
But i knew that she would probably do it again because before she and i got
together she had been together with like half my class.
Later she moved and i never liked her again, i have her blocked on msn.
And now i'm happy i did it. There are alot of better girls then these types, i
suggest not getting together with that girl, you will probably only get dumped again.
Guys like you are my hero. But I just don't know how you do it. Don't you ever think about the memories that you guys had, what fun you guys had together, what you guys have DONE? And doesn't it feel like it's all just been such a waste?
BrokenSaint wrote:
If my advice meant something to you, I'd say no. If she lied to you once, she'll do it again. She'll just manipulate you into thinking everything is all well, until BAM! She's getting it on with another guy. She'll be susceptible to do it again and again and all this time she's just been SCREWING WITH YOU. I'm sorry, but just my thoughts. But hey, I believe in second chances if some circumstances are met.
Love had taken me places. I had a GF. I never really thought that she was the cheating type. Then one day, my parents decide to take the family to the Philippines for some affair that I need to keep confidential. I'm Like WTF. For once in my life, I just wanted run away alone far away. I thought, maybe It's best not to love. Nah. I told her the next day about it. She cried, and my heart was torn apart into a million pieces. I felt like blaming myself for everything. I didn't want to see her cry and I cheered her up. I went over to her house for the last time and I made her promise, that if she ever had a relationship again, that she would treasure every moment with him, like I had with her. The next day, I'm off to the airport, leaving behind who I loved so much.
We still write each other now and then. All that matters is that she's happy.
I haven't experienced cheating... yet. But I know I'll feel shitty if I found out like FenaCorp.
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In case you do take her back, godspeed on your relationship AND DON'T LET ANYTHING GET IN THE WAY.
In case you don't, hey, look at the bright side, there's plenty of girls out there. I know It's hard to stop thinking of her, but sometimes, you just have to move on. Dwelling in the past will only hurt you.
Awww.
I feel for you, man. Everyone is saying this to me, but somehow, it's just... hard. Like, you know? You know that what everyone is saying is right, and wise, but it's just hard to accept. :/
XuChu wrote:shadowman20875 wrote:Coming back off a hard night of sleep.
everyone so nice here, people get a hard night sleep over someone elses affair shows how much they care,
and
Fena
heres a song I uploaded to mysite just for you ^^
http://narutoforums.org/花太香.mp3
Of course. Shadowman -
XuChu, thanks.
But the link doesn't work. I see Chinese characters in the link. Can you do that? Hua tai xiang, right? Can't really see the last word. Really scrunched up.
skulldiver wrote:fena...dump her and never look back.
believe me, that kind of girl isn't the kind of girl you want to be hanging out with.i already knew at the very beginning of you're story.
remember?the nerd type?
she had with him,but as soon as some better flesh comes around(as in ; you)she dumped the "nerd".
that already shows you how she is.
she doesnt wants him anymore, and dumps him for you.
2 months later, all this is happening.
do you even want to give her a second chance?
i sure as hell wouldn't
she first screwed the nerd(who possibly also was in emotional pain)
and after a while, she did exactly the same to you.
I remember. And the more I think about it, the more I wonder if the exact same thing is going on. If it is, how could she DO that? I mean, that's like... morally wrong, you know? Just toying around with people? You have to be seriously, and honestly, farked up to be doing that...
Just can't understand how she would be SUCH a good liar to be able to do that.
non ego man wrote:And NEVER get back together with someone who has cheated on you. Despite what you tell yourself, in your heart-of-hearts you will never trust them again. And despite what they tell themselves, in their heart-of-hearts they have no respect for you.
Exactly what I worry about. I take trust as a very serious aspect in any relationship, be it a girlfriend, or just a normal friend. I could never be able to 100% trust her now. Respect for you only grows, man. Thanks.
I'm not going to give her another chance. You guys are right. This is ridiculous, and this is bullshit. Now, what do I say to her? I already told her that I'm going to wait for her to change. So now...?
Sorry, guys. I know my problems are pretty small, and it seems really insignificant once XuChu put it into perspective... she's my pregnant. We don't have a kid. Nobody's hooked on drugs.
But, yeah. Hope I'm not coming across as a whiny little brat.
Once again, thanks to each and every one of you. You guys are awesome.
