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I'll preface this with, I'm pretty fkn terrible when it comes to women.

That said, the game that must be played is fkn annoying.

I've got this thing for a girl I worked with over the summer. I made sushi with her last weekend. She's gonna be making dinner for me this week. However, last time I talked to her (getting advil for broken arm) she mentioned she was fighting with her boyfriend over text. This is the first time she's mentioned the boyfriend.

I'm not sure to take this as one of the following:

1. Hey I've got a boyfriend, chill

or

2. I've got a boyfriend, but make a move cause we're "fighting"


And, I'm not quite sure, but last time I talked to her, she ended with "Bye sweetie"




Needless to say, I'm completely fkn confused. Any of the ladies or (knowledgeable) guys have any advice or something to say.

Could be she desperatly want you, though i would try and get a bit more info on the boyfriend situation.

Offer her the helping hand, make her feel comfortable, and then jump in for the kill.

Im in the same bucket at you cuchulainn but tbh id rather play it safe.

i'm honorable, so i'll stay back till she breaks up wit him

The text makes sense.

you and me bro

i can never tell when they are just been nice or whether they got something for you, rattling my head over sumit now too

I recently confronted a gall with what her feelings where.... turned out we are now a couple.

The thing is with females sometimes you just have to put your mind on 0 and go for it, at least thats how I experience it.

Theres one easy way to fix most issues with girls, dont think.

You can rattle your head around it all day but it will never solve anything. We can never know someones intentions unless they tell us, no amount of analyzing will come up with a certain answer.
Its best to have dinner with her, have a good time and see what happens. If she makes a move, kool? If she doesn't, so be it.

Stop thinking about the outcomes and just enjoy what happens, whatever that is.

no shit sherlock

Look. I said it before, and I'll say it again.

Don't even bother trying to understand us women.
Don't waste time to figure out what we actually want.
We have absolutely no idea what we want. :)

RuYi wrote:Look. I said it before, and I'll say it again.

Don't even bother trying to understand us women.
Don't waste time to figure out what we actually want.
We have absolutely no idea what we want.

So you dont know if you want this giant cookie im eating then? XD

i want cookie...but then again im a guy were pretty simple.

ask any guy what is good the answer is prolly gona be woman, ask him whats better 2 woman, and even better 5 woman

kill the boy friend then make it look like an accedent then be her shoulder to cry on it works everytime!!!!

Nephilimfox wrote:kill the boy friend then make it look like an accedent then be her shoulder to cry on it works everytime!!!!

Don't throw yourself at her right now. See how it goes with her and her boyfriend, I would give it about a week. If it still seems shes dropping hints, sit her down and tell her how you feel. Mention that you didn't want to put too much on her mind bringing it up to her seeing how shes having relationship problems.

I know it sounds cliche. But if she isn't into you like that you could always be friends .

Da_Realest wrote:In my opinion, you're obviously in the friend zone. Just act normal for now until you see some obvious signs that she is attracted to you.

Worst case is that if she does break up with her boyfriend and immediately hook up with you, you'd be most likely used as a rebound.

rebound is if she is dumped not the other way round

sounds like your in the friend zone

well that can be the case but most people i know who end a relationship are ready for a new relationship long before they leave the person, in many cases they end up happier and with the other person for a lot longer

hmm, i think that persons a women!
gl w/ that.

but dont wait to long, cause if u do u end up in the friend zone every time hence my location atm -_-

Wait cpinney it seems as though you're a girl. Never heard of a girl being in the friend zone..

i am a guy ^_^

Sry to say..But i believe your in the friendZone..and once your in there its really difficult to get out. I myself have ended up there on more than one occasion. The female is difficult to understand, they want what they cannot have. Ive tested this theory a couple times. I went to the bar and acted like a complete jerk to a couple girls and next thing you know they just wanted to hook up with me. Now you may not believe the above statement but ive asked some of my female friends(Which im 100% in the friendzone with)and they also said that there attracted to guys that they cannot have or guys which dont want them back. I was shocked when 3 out of the 5 girls i asked admitted to this and i quote "I Dont know why but it makes me want them more". This isnt all girls of course , but a decent majority.

My suggestion : Be straight up with her. Tell her how you feel. if you wait too long than youll be in the friendzone 100%.

"It is better to have love and lost to have never loved at all"

Hope i helped.

Regards
Paratroopa

shes probably looking towards someone for comfort and so she confides in you

For those not familiar with the 'friend zone', please watch this video:

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The sad part is..... this is all so true

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friendzone. get over it.

She'll use you for comfort and lean on you when things are down. She'll flirt with you occasionally and when things are really bad with her BF she might even hook up with you. But you'll never be anything more than a friend who was always there for her. Thats it.

just...

kiss her already...

I'll be holding my box of tissues and a bag of popcorn..