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trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 4:43 am
by [SD]Isidro
Hey.
So, i'm planning to ask this girl to be my girlfriend this weekend.
I know her for like 5 months now; we started "talking" about 3 months ago, and gotten real close. just last week Her and I went on our first date to the movies (we're not goin out yet), and it was really great for both of us. I paid for her even though she insisted, and i popped a tire (-.- OH WHY!) on the way there, but I managed to put up the spare one.. took me 15 min. We watched the Dark Knight (AWESOME!)
So now its August 1st, she said she might be able to meet me tomorrow (saturday), and knowing her parents, she probably has a curfew.
Now tomorrow i plan to ask her.. maybe take her to the park by her house and go for a walk, maybe buy her flowers and then ask her then and there? But flowers are kinda overrated. Maybe play a guitar for her or sing a song..
The only thing is, she might not trust me as much as I'd like to.. cause she gets jealous of when I'm around other girls..
She already told me she likes me and quite frankly i do too, she even said she was ready for me. All i have to do is man up and ask her. I have a car and money and all that, so I can do pretty much anything ..
so for replys...
So i ask, if you have a b/f or g/f, how did they ask you out? Or if you are single, what would be a really cute way of asking a girl/guy out?
I'm looking for other ways i can go about doing it. I know i know, BE MYSELF. Yeah, i will.

EDIT:::
Yeeaaah, success! I did it! Wasn't the conventional "Will you go out w/ me" "Yes" type response, but after everything's all said and done, it's good.
here's a pic of us on a weekend while we weren't goin out yet.

and as for asking her out, i guess we got paparazzi ;]. I decided to make name cards saying "I'm with ____" with the arrows. hah, obviously it worked.

Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 4:48 am
by BloodEngel
aww...
Just be yourself.
She said she likes you so she should be happy however you decide to do it. I don't think flowers are over rated but you know her taste. Just do what you think is right.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 4:50 am
by Rakion
Just be yourself dude...
dont give all your efforts(I mean dont give everything for her), Just try your best to make her happy, bcuz if all fears are just right, you might end up hurting her more than yourself...
Anyways Good Luck on your Date...
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 4:53 am
by Draquish
My best to you: Don't try too hard.
You'll be alright. Prepare to jump around your house in joy like an Asian schoolgirl.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 4:58 am
by Sharp324
Dont over do it, just do what you think is right and be charming. Mostly be yourself and go with it.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 5:02 am
by Dark Shifty
imo...
read bolded stuff if you don't like the all romantic shit.flowers are over done and too pricey.song.... nah. maybe if you two were already going out then that would be cool but if you write a song to ask her out, idk man, just seems a lil... obsessed bout her.
the park thing sounds very good but some kind of physical activity before that, like mini golf or bowling are great date ideas. after whatever you two do, take her to the park at night without telling her what your going to do there. bring a blanket with 1 or 2 pillows, and tell her that its such a beautiful night, that we should gaze up at the stars. lay the blanket down with the pillows and lay down. hopefully if everything goes right, she will lay down next to you, and your heads will be close enough to one another for when the time is right and after you tell her how beautiful she looks, you look at her, she looks at you and you guys kiss

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idk, something like that.
physical activity followed by blanket and star gazing = one great romantic
date night and if all goes right,
you ask her out.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 5:10 am
by dom
Ask on msn, throw in a couple emoticons to seal the deal.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 5:39 am
by [SD]Isidro
Dark Shifty wrote:imo...
read bolded stuff if you don't like the all romantic shit.flowers are over done and too pricey.song.... nah. maybe if you two were already going out then that would be cool but if you write a song to ask her out, idk man, just seems a lil... obsessed bout her.
the park thing sounds very good but some kind of physical activity before that, like mini golf or bowling are great date ideas. after whatever you two do, take her to the park at night without telling her what your going to do there. bring a blanket with 1 or 2 pillows, and tell her that its such a beautiful night, that we should gaze up at the stars. lay the blanket down with the pillows and lay down. hopefully if everything goes right, she will lay down next to you, and your heads will be close enough to one another for when the time is right and after you tell her how beautiful she looks, you look at her, she looks at you and you guys kiss

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idk, something like that.
physical activity followed by blanket and star gazing = one great romantic
date night and if all goes right,
you ask her out.
is goin bowling and all dat necessary? I mean I already did all dat stuff recently.. i just never asked her out officially.. Would just SEEING her good enough ? LOL shouldnt take more than an 30min-1 hour? XD
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 6:37 am
by Grandpa
You already know...
Be clean and smell good. (Not tooo much)
Don't be too casual - stubble and wrinkly clothing suggests you don't care enough to prepare.
Relax and approach her the way you do with all your friends.
Confidence counts.
Remember, though - it's Grandpa talking here
Asking somebody to be your g/f might not mean the same thing to you as it does to me.
She's already dropped hints, "
Ready for you".
I'd take her word for that.
~Granps
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 6:47 am
by Dark Shifty
[SD]Isidro wrote:Dark Shifty wrote:imo...
read bolded stuff if you don't like the all romantic shit.flowers are over done and too pricey.song.... nah. maybe if you two were already going out then that would be cool but if you write a song to ask her out, idk man, just seems a lil... obsessed bout her.
the park thing sounds very good but some kind of physical activity before that, like mini golf or bowling are great date ideas. after whatever you two do, take her to the park at night without telling her what your going to do there. bring a blanket with 1 or 2 pillows, and tell her that its such a beautiful night, that we should gaze up at the stars. lay the blanket down with the pillows and lay down. hopefully if everything goes right, she will lay down next to you, and your heads will be close enough to one another for when the time is right and after you tell her how beautiful she looks, you look at her, she looks at you and you guys kiss

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idk, something like that.
physical activity followed by blanket and star gazing = one great romantic
date night and if all goes right,
you ask her out.
is goin bowling and all dat necessary? I mean I already did all dat stuff recently.. i just never asked her out officially.. Would just SEEING her good enough ? LOL shouldnt take more than an 30min-1 hour? XD
well it sets a good atmosphere for romance. but since you did say she said she likes you, i say just go for it.

glhf
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 8:57 am
by takolin
Try being subtle.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 9:03 am
by piootr
Well i know a way to make sure she isn't messing around:
Dark Shifty wrote:tie her up and point a gun at her head and ask if she likes you, if she says yes, shes a liar and deserves a bullet in her skull, if she says no, call her a whore and put a bullet in her skull.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 9:06 am
by huejas
dom wrote:Ask on msn, throw in a couple emoticons to seal the deal.
most def. /thread
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 9:15 am
by Priam
My girlfriend asked me, that's the way to play it

Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 9:22 am
by Rakion
Priam wrote:My girlfriend asked me, that's the way to play it

*Culture Shocked...Drops down on floor*
Sorry about that...
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 9:58 am
by [SD]Isidro
hmm..
she didn't text me back after i asked her where i could meet her at....
that's a bad sign..
i mean we were texting back and forth for like 3texts.. and then when i popped the question she just stopped responding.
should i call her when i wake up in the morning? or let it be...? =/.. it IS her ultimate responsiblity to reply back, or to CALL ME.. right?
she did this a couple time sbefore, when i ask her really deep critical questions ,she didn't respond..
-_-
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 10:06 am
by Dark Shifty
piootr wrote:Well i know a way to make sure she isn't messing around:
Dark Shifty wrote:tie her up and point a gun at her head and ask if she likes you, if she says yes, shes a liar and deserves a bullet in her skull, if she says no, call her a whore and put a bullet in her skull.
haha, i tottaly i forgot about such great advice. that is sig worthy.
[SD]Isidro wrote:hmm..
she didn't text me back after i asked her where i could meet her at....
that's a bad sign..
i mean we were texting back and forth for like 3texts.. and then when i popped the question she just stopped responding.
should i call her when i wake up in the morning? or let it be...? =/.. it IS her ultimate responsiblity to reply back, or to CALL ME.. right?
she did this a couple time sbefore, when i ask her really deep critical questions ,she didn't respond..
-_-
don't stress. i highly doubt that she is "avoiding" you because you want to go chill with her. i don't think her logic is, "maybe if i don't respond to this, he will forget that he asked and we don't have to meet. hehe... i wonder whats new on 4chan... hmmmz" ya... i would give her a call round 1ish, that way she has had lunch and is happy.

Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 10:11 am
by tedtwilliger
dom wrote:Ask on msn, throw in a couple emoticons to seal the deal.
You can send love hearts, flowers and hugs all at once!
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 10:24 am
by piootr
tedtwilliger wrote:dom wrote:Ask on msn, throw in a couple emoticons to seal the deal.
You can send love hearts, flowers and hugs all at once!
And to top it all off, send her a nudge, anyone who resists that is just plain unreasonable.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 10:29 am
by The Mobius
dom wrote:Ask on msn, throw in a couple emoticons to seal the deal.
Use smilies. Hehe. (que those 2 pictures about the guy giving the smiley).
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 1:30 pm
by StealMySoda
Threads like this make me laugh so much

If you need to ask US, for ideas of how to ask her. You don't deserve her.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 1:51 pm
by Gaigemasta
lol man ur acting like you're about to purpose!!! lol, calm down man, dont make a big deal over it, just get hi before u do it so you won't regret any moment of it

Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 2:27 pm
by Grimjaw
You got the green and the car,so take her someplace she would enjoy. Don't lay it on to thick and try to work towards a good and relaxing evening. Then when the moment is right ask her.
Good luck.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 2:31 pm
by Argonaut
[SD]Isidro wrote:The only thing is, she might not trust me as much as I'd like to.. cause she gets jealous of when I'm around other girls..
Its normal for girls to get jealous, just as long as it isnt overboard. As long as it doesn't get in the way of your relationship, I wouldn't worry too much about it.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 3:04 pm
by rek
dom wrote:Ask on msn, throw in a couple emoticons to seal the deal.
Dom knows what hes talking about. Girls love emotes.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 3:40 pm
by destructionmama
asking on msn is not sincere enough to me.
If you can write songs and feel like doing it, do it. Girls like that stuff
they like flowers too, but don't over do it, or else they'll have high expectation of you when it comes to anniversaries and birthdays

Good luck man

Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 4:14 pm
by Tobi
show her your elite sro char, she'll beg you to marry her
but seriously, just kiss her after you say a few nice words, no need to ask her
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 8:38 pm
by Grandpa
It's an old game - you chase her until she catches you.
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:04 am
by Dark Shifty

when in doubt, send a smiley
Re: trying to make it official
Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:18 am
by [SD]Isidro
Thanks for all the insight and support, and yeah, it's 1am here, pretty crazy about what happeend. It turned out she couldnt come out and meet me up so she had to sneak out. I waited for a while but it was all worth it. Went to Starbucks and it was kickass from there. Talked about how we first met and all the memories we had, and finally, brought up the question. Cooo.