Why would anyone do this?

Post by **Rainigul** » Wed Sep 05, 2007 11:40 pm

ok, there's this girl I like. And recently I started talking to her and stuff, and more recently, we've started to go out.

Anyways, I was being really paranoid that she didn't really like me. I then decided I was being paranoid.
But now a friend of mine showed me chat between both of them, and in that chat it shows that the girl might not like me after all.

What I don't understand though is why she would go out with me if she didn't like me? I think she might just be doing this to annoy her friend, I don't know why though?
Would you ever do that?

Sorry if I'm being vague, but I don't want to give anything away.

Nuklear · Post by **Nuklear** » Wed Sep 05, 2007 11:41 pm

It's just 'the game.'
Oh, and not another one of these...

XemnasXD · Post by **XemnasXD** » Wed Sep 05, 2007 11:42 pm

maybe your a rebound guy or like your friend said she''s just using you to make someone else jealous.....if so thats a shame srry for you

StealMySoda · Post by **StealMySoda** » Wed Sep 05, 2007 11:49 pm

Ask her about it, its upto you whether to trust her enough to believe what she says. Then again, she may just tell you the truth, that being you were a rebound guy, or to make someone jealous.

Good luck

bakafish · Post by **bakafish** » Wed Sep 05, 2007 11:51 pm

Maybe giving you a chance?

CrimsonNuker · Post by **CrimsonNuker** » Wed Sep 05, 2007 11:58 pm

Maybe she felt sorry? (no offence)

Post by **Rainigul** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:01 am

CrimsonNuker wrote:Maybe she felt sorry? (no offence)

I wish you would explain why you said that.

Anyways, now that you people mention it it's possible I'm a rebound guy, but I don't think so.

People kept saying that she should go out with some other guy, but she didn't do it.

I dunno, I was so sure that she liked me too, but today has just got me all confused

Post by **dom** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:06 am

CrimsonNuker wrote:Maybe she felt sorry? (no offence)

+1. In junior high, and even in early high school, girls said yes to any guy because they felt sorry.

StealMySoda · Post by **StealMySoda** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:09 am

If your confused, talk to her, its not much of a relationship if you can't even talk to her about it, maybe your just being paranoid, maybe your not.

[SD]Master_Wong · Post by **[SD]Master_Wong** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:12 am

if you know this why dont you push her see how far she is willing to go to do what ever she wants to do, and by pushing her i dont mean phyically or sexually think of other ways but sexually is def one way

StealMySoda · Post by **StealMySoda** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:13 am

[SD]Master_Wong wrote:if you know this why dont you push her see how far she is willing to go to do what ever she wants to do, and by pushing her i dont mean phyically or sexually think of other ways but sexually is def one way

And if shes completely innocent, you end up ruining what could be a great relationship? Or end up looking like a dick.

Draquish · Post by **Draquish** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:14 am

You sound insecure and unexperienced.

I say you let the relationship crash and blow up in yer face. Serves you for experience

(I'm not trying to be mean, stop being so sensitive

)

Reise · Post by **Reise** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:15 am

You gotta strong-arm that beezie. Show her what a real pimp is made of.

StealMySoda · Post by **StealMySoda** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:16 am

[SD]draquish wrote:You sound insecure and unexperienced.

I say you let the relationship crash and blow up in yer face. Serves you for experience

(I'm not trying to be mean, stop being so sensitive )

I think you hit the nail on the head

[SD]Master_Wong · Post by **[SD]Master_Wong** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:17 am

StealMySoda wrote:
[SD]Master_Wong wrote:if you know this why dont you push her see how far she is willing to go to do what ever she wants to do, and by pushing her i dont mean phyically or sexually think of other ways but sexually is def one way

And if shes completely innocent, you end up ruining what could be a great relationship? Or end up looking like a dick.

theres ways to do it so you put a guilt trip on her without been the bad guy you know

Post by **Rainigul** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:17 am

dom wrote:
CrimsonNuker wrote:Maybe she felt sorry? (no offence)

+1. In junior high, and even in early high school, girls said yes to any guy because they felt sorry.

I didn't ask her out, she asked me out.

So far Soda has been the best advise.

And I'm really sorry if I sound like a pussy, but this is the worst I've ever felt in my life. I don't even know why!

For some reason though, I just really like her.

It's like on this one show "How would you feel if you felt endless love for someone, but they feel nothing for you".

I really hope I'm just being paranoid.

Also, I don't want to blow this up yet, maybe when I'm alittle more sure.

Draquish · Post by **Draquish** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:17 am

StealMySoda wrote:
[SD]draquish wrote:You sound insecure and unexperienced.

I say you let the relationship crash and blow up in yer face. Serves you for experience

(I'm not trying to be mean, stop being so sensitive )

I think you hit the nail on the head

NOOO!!!

POOR NAIL!!!!

XemnasXD · Post by **XemnasXD** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:17 am

[SD]Master_Wong wrote:
StealMySoda wrote:
[SD]Master_Wong wrote:if you know this why dont you push her see how far she is willing to go to do what ever she wants to do, and by pushing her i dont mean phyically or sexually think of other ways but sexually is def one way

And if shes completely innocent, you end up ruining what could be a great relationship? Or end up looking like a dick.

theres ways to do it so you put a guilt trip on her without been the bad guy you know

thats kinda assholish

StealMySoda · Post by **StealMySoda** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:18 am

[SD]Master_Wong wrote:
StealMySoda wrote:
[SD]Master_Wong wrote:if you know this why dont you push her see how far she is willing to go to do what ever she wants to do, and by pushing her i dont mean phyically or sexually think of other ways but sexually is def one way

And if shes completely innocent, you end up ruining what could be a great relationship? Or end up looking like a dick.

theres ways to do it so you put a guilt trip on her without been the bad guy you know

To be honest, I'd rather know my self I treat my women well, rather than people thinking I do.

[SD]Rainigul wrote:
dom wrote:
CrimsonNuker wrote:Maybe she felt sorry? (no offence)

+1. In junior high, and even in early high school, girls said yes to any guy because they felt sorry.

I didn't ask her out, she asked me out.

So far Soda has been the best advise.

And I'm really sorry if I sound like a pussy, but this is the worst I've ever felt in my life. I don't even know why!

For some reason though, I just really like her.

It's like on this one show "How would you feel if you felt endless love for someone, but they feel nothing for you".

I really hope I'm just being paranoid.

Also, I don't want to blow this up yet, maybe when I'm alittle more sure.

You can do two things.
Trust Her and get over your insecurities, talk to her about it
or Hide, run away, and let the relationship die.

[SD]Master_Wong · Post by **[SD]Master_Wong** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:20 am

XemnasXD wrote:
[SD]Master_Wong wrote:
StealMySoda wrote:
[SD]Master_Wong wrote:if you know this why dont you push her see how far she is willing to go to do what ever she wants to do, and by pushing her i dont mean phyically or sexually think of other ways but sexually is def one way

And if shes completely innocent, you end up ruining what could be a great relationship? Or end up looking like a dick.

theres ways to do it so you put a guilt trip on her without been the bad guy you know

thats kinda assholish

if shes faking her feelings towards you then if you take her out for a nice meal and a romantic night she might feel guilty or if you say you love her in a romantic way, or yeh be an asshole but you only need her to get a guilt trip not do anything really bad, then this way if she does like you no harm done she wont feel guilty or anything

Shadowman20818 · Post by **Shadowman20818** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:20 am

I'm was going to say deal with it, but I've been through this and can only deal with it in hindsight. So my piece of advice: confront her and ride this out, it can end well, bad, or confusing, either way you get past this.

Amelie · Post by **Amelie** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:21 am

StealMySoda wrote:You can do two things.
Trust Her and get over your insecurities, talk to her about it
or Hide, run away, and let the relationship die.

talk to her and let her know how you feel.
we love that!

Post by **Rainigul** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:21 am

What does everyone mean by confront her?

Do you mean tell her I know about that conversation or something?

I've tried to confront this without destroying it, and it all checks out.

But for some reason, I think she's just really good at faking.

Shadowman20818 · Post by **Shadowman20818** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:22 am

[SD]Rainigul wrote:What does everyone mean by confront her?

Do you mean tell her I know about that conversation or something?

I've tried to confront this without destroying it, and it all checks out.

But for some reason, I think she's just really good at faking.

Get her alone, and don't small talk and ask her straight out what happened on that chat and why she would say she doesn't like you.

StealMySoda · Post by **StealMySoda** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:23 am

[SD]Rainigul wrote:What does everyone mean by confront her?

Do you mean tell her I know about that conversation or something?

I've tried to confront this without destroying it, and it all checks out.

But for some reason, I think she's just really good at faking.

Confront, maybe isn't the right word, talk to her about it. Tell her your worried. Tell her she means a lot to you. If she feels the same, no harm done. If not, then you found out, and you can get on with life.

Post by **Rainigul** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:25 am

Shadowman20818 wrote:
[SD]Rainigul wrote:What does everyone mean by confront her?

Do you mean tell her I know about that conversation or something?

I've tried to confront this without destroying it, and it all checks out.

But for some reason, I think she's just really good at faking.

Get her alone, and don't small talk and ask her straight out what happened on that chat and why she would say she doesn't like you.

I don't think I'm saying everything right... Here's how it is, to the best I can explain it.

We're going out.
She never said she didn't like me.
I've been really honest with how I feel about her.
It would seem like she's the same way towards me.
She is very affectionate.

I'd be totally fine with this if it wasn't for that one message that I saw. And it can be interpreted in several different ways, maybe she just didn't know who I was for a while (I just moved to a new school). Maybe she just doesn't like me.

The way I am interpreting it right now is that she does really like me... But there's still that nagging doubt.

Amelie · Post by **Amelie** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:28 am

StealMySoda wrote:Confront, maybe isn't the right word, talk to her about it. Tell her your worried. Tell her she means a lot to you. If she feels the same, no harm done. If not, then you found out, and you can get on with life.

what soda said.

You will never know how or what she feels about it till you speak yourself out.
Dont fall your mind in speculations, just have a conversation with her, and just then you will know what are her intentions.

[SD]Master_Wong · Post by **[SD]Master_Wong** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:29 am

tell her you seen something silly, someone pretending to be her on msn or what ever saying that she dont like you..laugh and wait for reaction

StealMySoda · Post by **StealMySoda** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:36 am

Amelie wrote:
StealMySoda wrote:Confront, maybe isn't the right word, talk to her about it. Tell her your worried. Tell her she means a lot to you. If she feels the same, no harm done. If not, then you found out, and you can get on with life.

what soda said.

You will never know how or what she feels about it till you speak yourself out.
Dont fall your mind in speculations, just have a conversation with her, and just then you will know what are her intentions.

Then if after that, your still not sure. We can't really help you. Its a personal problem

If you want to chat on MSN about it, just hit me up with a PM

Post by **Rainigul** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 1:11 am

[SD]Master_Wong wrote:tell her you seen something silly, someone pretending to be her on msn or what ever saying that she dont like you..laugh and wait for reaction

Hmm, clever, devious, I like it

I think I'm good now, I was hoping to get advise more like this:

"I'm sure that you're right, and she just didn't know you too well. Just have some fun while you can."

I dunno, I came up with better stuff like 10 mins ago but I forgot it now.

In short, I'm just gonna act like I normally would around her, and maybe it'll turn out fine.