girl problems ^^

Luoma · Post by **Luoma** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:09 pm

Ok, seeing as school is coming to an end we had a school ball where there is a kind of lottery of who will go with who.
So i end up with this nice looking girl, easy to talk to and seems interested

You have to dance to the first 2 songs with the person you ended up with
(wals & foxtrott) and then you can do whatever you like, me and this girl dance to probably 10+ songs, talk and have fun.

After a fun night it nears the end (00:00) and she says "last dance now" so i
ask for her msn, she says "ill sms it to you, give me your number".
BUT! When i get home i look her up on lunarstorm and find she has
a boyfriend that she has been together with for 2 years and they write
"I love you forever! You are the best! You make me so happy!" everyday to
eachother... >_>

and she left for germany the following day... going to sms her tomorrow, not
really sure what to write..

probably the longest post iv'e ever made... anyway... lol

any.. advice? :?:

Wu · Post by Wu » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:14 pm

Id say try to be friends at first, and if your getting really close after some time and you get the feeling she really likes you ask her about her bf and what she wants; decide yourself, if you can be 'satisfied' (so to say) with being friends just be friends (or just at first) but if you want to really be with her decide if you want to give it a try (and possibly destroy her relationship lol..) and youll see where it ends up.. at least talk with her about it when your getting feelings for eachother

also maybe she just wants to be friends..

gl!

Luoma · Post by **Luoma** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:18 pm

Wu wrote:Id say try to be friends at first, and if your getting really close after some time and you get the feeling she really likes you ask her about her bf and what she wants; decide yourself, if you can be 'satisfied' (so to say) with being friends just be friends (or just at first) but if you want to really be with her decide if you want to give it a try (and possibly destroy her relationship lol..) and youll see where it ends up.. at least talk with her about it when your getting feelings for eachother

also maybe she just wants to be friends..

gl!

thanks for the words of wisdom ^^ ill just talk to her about... general
stuff for awhile on

and yea maby just wanted to be friends >_> but it didn't seem like it at the time... or maby im just assuming things :roll:

Website · Post by **satman83** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:18 pm

sorry but just to long to read...yea i know coming from me..IRONY

Blackchocob0 · Post by **Blackchocob0** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:18 pm

You're making too much of it buddy.

She's obviously not interested in you in that way...

I probably wouldn't even bother txting her...except maybe to say you had fun and to take care.

[SD]Master_Wong · Post by **[SD]Master_Wong** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:21 pm

bad luck dude tbh not much you can do

could slowly work up as a good friend someone shes eventually relys on them make a move but thats a long shot and takes a while

Luoma · Post by **Luoma** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:23 pm

Blackchocob0 wrote:You're making too much of it buddy.

She's obviously not interested in you in that way...

I probably wouldn't even bother txting her...except maybe to say you had fun and to take care.

but there was more little things like... her friend saying "here comes the lovebirds" (after a few dances) and her replying "yeayeayea" and smiling >_>

but i could just be seeing things that arn't there lol

PsYch008 · Post by **PsYch008** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:27 pm

stay away from her, if she has a bf, and is leading you on like that, she is a ho, and will end up cheating on you if you get together with her, and do the same thing to you that she is doing with you to her current bf.

Luoma · Post by **Luoma** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:29 pm

PsYch008 wrote:stay away from her, if she has a bf, and is leading you on like that, she is a ho, and will end up cheating on you if you get together with her, and do the same thing to you that she is doing with you to her current bf.

aaah i need to think about something else! *goes shooting people on Soldat*

[SD]Master_Wong · Post by **[SD]Master_Wong** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:30 pm

Luoma wrote:
PsYch008 wrote:stay away from her, if she has a bf, and is leading you on like that, she is a ho, and will end up cheating on you if you get together with her, and do the same thing to you that she is doing with you to her current bf.

aaah i need to think about something else! *goes shooting people on Soldat*

if she wants some give her some but i have to partially agree with psycho

but hell if shes good looking and coming onto you have some fun then walk away

Blackchocob0 · Post by **Blackchocob0** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:32 pm

People joke like that. If you guys danced together alot it's natural for people to make those jokes.

And her saying yea yea with a smile...lol my point is these are just natural responses, you're reading too far into things my friend.

PsYch008 · Post by **PsYch008** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:34 pm

[SD]Master_Wong wrote:
Luoma wrote:
PsYch008 wrote:stay away from her, if she has a bf, and is leading you on like that, she is a ho, and will end up cheating on you if you get together with her, and do the same thing to you that she is doing with you to her current bf.

aaah i need to think about something else! *goes shooting people on Soldat*

if she wants some give her some but i have to partially agree with psycho

but hell if shes good looking and coming onto you have some fun then walk away

make sure to walk away.

Draquish · Post by **Draquish** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:38 pm

Don't think too much of it. It was a dance.

Sorry, I ate the sugar coating

[SD]Master_Wong · Post by **[SD]Master_Wong** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:39 pm

PsYch008 wrote:
[SD]Master_Wong wrote:
Luoma wrote:
PsYch008 wrote:stay away from her, if she has a bf, and is leading you on like that, she is a ho, and will end up cheating on you if you get together with her, and do the same thing to you that she is doing with you to her current bf.

aaah i need to think about something else! *goes shooting people on Soldat*

if she wants some give her some but i have to partially agree with psycho

but hell if shes good looking and coming onto you have some fun then walk away

make sure to walk away.

or run depends on how big her bf is

no serious now if shes coming onto you let her it does no harm to you and its not like you went onto her and forced her to cheat on you, yeh this is how a lot of guys think for girls who are reading

but if she aint told you how are you suppose to know (even though you do)

Draquish · Post by **Draquish** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:41 pm

Even though I don't do this anymore, and I don't approve of it...

She probrably doesn't know that YOU know. So if worst case scenario her BF finds out...you didn't know...and she can testify

Anh_Hung_Rom · Post by **Anh_Hung_Rom** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:46 pm

PsYch008 wrote:stay away from her, if she has a bf, and is leading you on like that, she is a ho, and will end up cheating on you if you get together with her, and do the same thing to you that she is doing with you to her current bf.

Woa, hold your horse on calling people ho this and ho that.

1. from what I heard, it's a lottery dance and she happens to pair up with luoma.

2. a dance is a dance. It's can be just a social activity. 'yeh yeh' means whatever.

3. Didn't sound like she made any advance on him.

So there isn't any 'leading you on'.

On topic, it's easy to feel affectionate after a close encounter like this Luoma. Sorry but there isn't anything brewing like the beginning of a relationship. Like Master_Wong said, if you like her, try to be friend first. Should her relationship go down the drain later, you can make the advancement.

Don't be a player. You only end up hurting the person you care about and yourself.

Blackchocob0 · Post by **Blackchocob0** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:49 pm

She may not consider what she's doing to be 'leading him on', but Luoma seems like he is reading too far into things.

What I'd do: If she wants to hang out, hang out. If things lead to things, let it happen. But keep in mind she IS cheating, so don't let things get serious, cos just like Psych said, she'd do the same shit to you.

But don't go get your heart set on something serious dude, cos it sounds to me like nothins gonna happen.

PsYch008 · Post by **PsYch008** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:49 pm

Blackchocob0 wrote:She may not consider what she's doing to be 'leading him on', but Luoma seems like he is reading too far into things.

What I'd do: If she wants to hang out, hang out. If things lead to things, let it happen. But keep in mind she IS cheating, so don't let things get serious, cos just like Psych said, she'd do the same shit to you.

But don't go get your heart set on something serious dude, cos it sounds to me like nothins gonna happen.

tru dat.

Luoma · Post by **Luoma** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 8:01 pm

lol thanks everyone

Blackchocob0 · Post by **Blackchocob0** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 8:02 pm

We're all eager to showcase our expansive girl experience... :roll:

Lol no problem.

Jabo · Post by **Jabo** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 11:43 pm

3 things and maybe a bonus now im passing here

1) i dont know now most of your posts since i went away, but it looks like the longest =D
2) what is lunarstorm? can you see other ppl messages? =O
3) Its a girl... what were you waiting for? Girls are just that... girls. =)

shadowman20875 · Post by **shadowman20875** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 11:48 pm

theres gotta be a reason she asked for ur number and gave u her sn knowing full well what u'll see, so either it was a friends only thing or she wants you over her current bf

Blackchocob0 · Post by **Blackchocob0** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 11:52 pm

No. Girls give out their #'s cos they don't want you to feel bad.

Trust me.

Or somethin along those lines. But yeah, just cos you got her # doesn't guarantee anything. Alot of the time they did it to not hurt your feelings or cos you bought them a drink or cos they're drunk LOL.

Kitty · Post by **Kitty** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 11:58 pm

Better off if you find another girl

[SD]Master_Wong · Post by **[SD]Master_Wong** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 12:00 am

Blackchocob0 wrote:No. Girls give out their #'s cos they don't want you to feel bad.

Trust me.

Or somethin along those lines. But yeah, just cos you got her # doesn't guarantee anything. Alot of the time they did it to not hurt your feelings or cos you bought them a drink or cos they're drunk LOL.

if they give out numbers because they feel bad or pity you id have a lot more numbers

iv made such a prat out of myself

jeez i even spent £5 in a shop going back and forth until i asked her for her number to find out she got a bf

shadowman20875 · Post by **shadowman20875** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 12:01 am

[SD]Master_Wong wrote:
Blackchocob0 wrote:No. Girls give out their #'s cos they don't want you to feel bad.

Trust me.

Or somethin along those lines. But yeah, just cos you got her # doesn't guarantee anything. Alot of the time they did it to not hurt your feelings or cos you bought them a drink or cos they're drunk LOL.

if they give out numbers because they feel bad or pity you id have a lot more numbers

iv made such a prat out of myself

jeez i even spent £5 in a shop going back and forth until i asked her for her number to find out she got a bf

if i read right he gave HER the #?

Blackchocob0 · Post by **Blackchocob0** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 12:03 am

Oh.

@ Wong dunno bout your friends but I have friends who do that to guys.

They'll not pick up a phone call, just going 'oh god it's him', or 'ugh that guy I gave my # to cos he bought me so many drinks'. I'm not making that up, I've heard that exact thing before.

cin · Post by **cin** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 12:07 am

Blackchocob0 wrote:Oh.

@ Wong dunno bout your friends but I have friends who do that to guys.

They'll not pick up a phone call, just going 'oh god it's him', or 'ugh that guy I gave my # to cos he bought me so many drinks'. I'm not making that up, I've heard that exact thing before.

some of my friends do that too.

idk i wouldnt make this whole thing into a romantic happening i think.. i also
dont know how old u are Luoma. if u are like 16 or something, i wouldnt be
bothered by the fact that she has a bf. ive seen tons of relationships break
at that age. just either hang out with her and try to turn it into something real
in a short amount of time, or dont mind her at all. if you do something in
between she will keep you on a leash for the next year or so.

Blackchocob0 · Post by **Blackchocob0** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 12:40 am

If she's that type of girl, he's right.

If you play the nice guy, she'll make it seem like you've got a chance, but she'll just milk you for everything you've got to offer, while never actually hookin up with you.

All the while talkin shit behind your back.

Silver0 · Post by **Silver0** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 3:42 am

well can i type my girl problem i got?
complicated though been in the works of 3yrs