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Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 6:10 am
by Mirosuke
How long would you guys "wait" before you ask a girl you like? (starting when you met her, cause you had a good impression)
As for me, I think 2-3 weeks is way too fast UNLESS, you know her a lot and you might expect a "Yes" as a response... I'd say 1 month maybe?
I am pretty confused, now a days people date because they find them "attractive" but not really having the feeling of being in love.
Do you still keep in contact with your ex's?
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 6:11 am
by Crowley
2 years and still waiting
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 6:23 am
by cpinney
Tsume wrote:2 years and still waiting
your in the friend zone brah
as for me its when it feels right, usually after periods of talking/hanging out, to make sure they aren't bat shit crazy and will cut off my dick in the middle of the night.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 6:28 am
by Amarisa
Just ask her out? It shouldn't matter if you have known them for 10 years or 10 seconds. If you have an interest in them where you would like to date them. Then what's stopping you?
Sexual impression also has a key in relationships. Some more then others.
Like I said just go for it. It's just rejection anyways? If you wait too long you will end up in the infamous "friend zone" and all hope is lost. Act before you lose your chance.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 6:35 am
by antics
just ask he rout. she says no tough titty for the kitty
but if she says yes then ull feel great
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 6:39 am
by cpinney
Amarisa wrote:Just ask her out? It shouldn't matter if you have known them for 10 years or 10 seconds. If you have an interest in them where you would like to date them. Then what's stopping you?
Sexual impression also has a key in relationships. Some more then others.
Like I said just go for it. It's just rejection anyways? If you wait too long you will end up in the infamous "friend zone" and all hope is lost. Act before you lose your chance.
dont take this advice.
if you just ask her out cause you think shes attractive and never even talked to her before, pretty good chance you will get denied unless you are some ungodly attractive rumored sex god, assuming she is a whore of course (like amrisa, which is why she is giving you this advice).
talk it out over time, see if she seems interested if you think she is interested in you then go for it.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 6:41 am
by Amarisa
cpinney wrote:Amarisa wrote:Just ask her out? It shouldn't matter if you have known them for 10 years or 10 seconds. If you have an interest in them where you would like to date them. Then what's stopping you?
Sexual impression also has a key in relationships. Some more then others.
Like I said just go for it. It's just rejection anyways? If you wait too long you will end up in the infamous "friend zone" and all hope is lost. Act before you lose your chance.
dont take this advice.
if you just ask her out cause you think shes attractive and never even talked to her before, pretty good chance you will get denied unless you are some ungodly attractive rumored sex god, assuming she is a whore of course (like amrisa, which is why she is giving you this advice).
talk it out over time, see if she seems interested if you think she is interested in you then go for it.
u just jelly I gave advice.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 6:47 am
by _Clitrix_
Amarisa wrote:Just ask her out? It shouldn't matter if you have known them for 10 years or 10 seconds. If you have an interest in them where you would like to date them. Then what's stopping you?
Sexual impression also has a key in relationships. Some more then others.
Like I said just go for it. It's just rejection anyways? If you wait too long you will end up in the infamous "friend zone" and all hope is lost. Act before you lose your chance.
That would be a bit weird.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 6:49 am
by Amarisa
_Clitrix_ wrote:Amarisa wrote:Just ask her out? It shouldn't matter if you have known them for 10 years or 10 seconds. If you have an interest in them where you would like to date them. Then what's stopping you?
Sexual impression also has a key in relationships. Some more then others.
Like I said just go for it. It's just rejection anyways? If you wait too long you will end up in the infamous "friend zone" and all hope is lost. Act before you lose your chance.
That would be a bit weird.
So maybe I elaborated but my point still stands.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 6:52 am
by cpinney
Amarisa wrote:cpinney wrote:Amarisa wrote:Just ask her out? It shouldn't matter if you have known them for 10 years or 10 seconds. If you have an interest in them where you would like to date them. Then what's stopping you?
Sexual impression also has a key in relationships. Some more then others.
Like I said just go for it. It's just rejection anyways? If you wait too long you will end up in the infamous "friend zone" and all hope is lost. Act before you lose your chance.
dont take this advice.
if you just ask her out cause you think shes attractive and never even talked to her before, pretty good chance you will get denied unless you are some ungodly attractive rumored sex god, assuming she is a whore of course (like amrisa, which is why she is giving you this advice).
talk it out over time, see if she seems interested if you think she is interested in you then go for it.
u just jelly I gave advice.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 7:11 am
by Mirosuke
Well, I didn't ask it for me, I was curious and just wondered. ( I has gf.)
And to be honest between 10 secs and 10 years makes a huge difference... If I meet someone today in the morning and we hang out all day and I think she's fun and attractive, then it's night, asking her out would look good? I don't think the girl would say yes, no matter how fun we had that day (also, if she said yes, doesn't make her look like easy?). If you are talking about asking her, I think anyone can do it when you know there is interest from both sides.
And what's stopping me? There is a small chance risking the friendship, don't cha think?
(I rejected a girl once, it's hard to be face to face again.)
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 8:02 am
by _Clitrix_
cpinney wrote:Tsume wrote:2 years and still waiting
your in the friend zone brah
as for me its when it feels right, usually after periods of talking/hanging out, to make sure they aren't bat shit crazy and will cut off my dick in the middle of the night.
f
ucking friend zone..
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 8:06 am
by Skyve
I only ask her out when she's obviously all over me. And I usually let my entourage do that remark. As of now, a cute girl from Holland is all over me
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 10:30 am
by DumboDii
I think everyone here is making "one date" a way too big of a deal.
If you meet girl and find her attractive so why wouldn't you ask her out? In my opinnion dates are way to get to know girl you don't already know. If you just keep hanging with her whitout showing your feelings you are just going to enter the friend zone faster than you believe.
And if, after few dates, you find out that the girl is not what you are looking for you just stop going for dates.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 10:58 am
by only_me
it doesn't matter if u had a good impression of her. if she had a good impression about YOU, then you can ask her out in 6,7 days
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 12:59 pm
by *BlackFox
Before you ask her out.. make sure you speak to her first. lulz
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 1:03 pm
by Fiction
Why even ask? Do like Cpinney... "When it feels right"... This is bullshit, we met, next day I come home and he's taken a shower in my house and is naked in my bed reading MY Tv Guide! He's smooth like that though... fell in love with him that moment <3
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 1:04 pm
by Amarisa
DumboDii wrote:I think everyone here is making "one date" a way too big of a deal.
If you meet girl and find her attractive so why wouldn't you ask her out? In my opinnion dates are way to get to know girl you don't already know. If you just keep hanging with her whitout showing your feelings you are just going to enter the friend zone faster than you believe.
And if, after few dates, you find out that the girl is not what you are looking for you just stop going for dates.
+1
Nothing wrong with asking them out. Like "hey I enjoyed your time and was wondering if you wanted to see bla bla bla movie?"
If she enjoyed your time she will probably agree as long as you don't say it in a pushy way and act like all you want to do is get in her pants.
If you don't show interest any more then a friend then you will become that friend. Nothing more.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 1:10 pm
by Apy
Fiction wrote:Why even ask? Do like Cpinney... "When it feels right"... This is bullshit, we met, next day I come home and he's taken a shower in my house and is naked in my bed reading MY Tv Guide! He's smooth like that though... fell in love with him that moment <3
omg man, you're gay too oO ?
wtf everybody turns gay on this forum ?
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 1:52 pm
by chickenfeather
Go for it. Better to regret than to let an opportunity pass you.
If you wait for "when it feels right", she'll probably friendzone you because "if you REALLY liked me, you would have made a move on me earlier" or some other dumb logic like that.
If you hook up with her just out of lust, then you can decide later whether she is good enough to keep. If she's not a good match, drop it like it's hot and she can go Q_Q about how guys are superficial and just use her for sex.
Cliffs : women that want guys not to treat them like sex objects but friend zone those who try to get to know them /rage. This is why you are confused.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 2:01 pm
by Miguez
DumboDii wrote:I think everyone here is making "one date" a way too big of a deal.
If you meet girl and find her attractive so why wouldn't you ask her out? In my opinnion dates are way to get to know girl you don't already know. If you just keep hanging with her whitout showing your feelings you are just going to enter the friend zone faster than you believe.
And if, after few dates, you find out that the girl is not what you are looking for you just stop going for dates.
Yup.
The way I do it is:
I meet this girl at some party, for example. We hang out a little, I make her laugh, we talk, and if I feel like there's something going on, I ask for her number right before one of us leaves, so that if she rejects me, it won't be that awkward.
Then I start texting her and see how she responds to that, if she seems to be interested and texts me back I'll get to know her a little, not too much, just enough to keep the conversation going. If I ask too many questions about her (about pets, siblings, hobbies, etc.) I might go into our first date and have nothing to talk about. (Has happened to me once, dunno if it will happen to you, depends on the person. I'm not that great of a talker to be honest.)
After this I ask her out on a date, I usually try to do it in a funny way to avoid being awkward.
This for girls that I don't know or don't see everyday (e.g. friends of friends), which to be honest, are my favourite type of girls since I believe that if I see her everyday we'll probably get bored. It could also go the other way around but if she breaks up or you do, it won't be that hard since you won't see her very often.
I'm also 16, so I don't know how it goes when you're older. But I just try to be myself and be confident(not cocky).
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 2:08 pm
by BuDo
Let a girl know off the bat that you are interested in her but not by asking her out right away. The type of conversations you have with her and simply the way you look at her can be enough. No need to do the obvious things like flowers etc. Instead just do the simple things to show her you like her. Based on how she reacts you can then ask her out (or not). Most girls need space and time to realize whether they'd go out with you. Especially if they've never thought about you in that way before.
If you are clearly showing her signs that you dig her and she ain't reacting to it in the way you hope then just forget it. I know it can be hard if find that you are in love with her but just forget it and try to continue being friends. Better than blurting out that you want to date her and create an awkward situation that may threatened your existing friendship. When someone likes you in the same way you like them it normally doesn't take long before you start to date.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 7:11 pm
by IceCrash
pros way
you meet the girl, you get her number, you wait 3 days, you phone her and ask her out, you make out with her, you wait 1 or 2 days, you phone for another date, you meet up with her, you have sex
thanks.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 7:14 pm
by cbkilla
IceCrash wrote:pros way
you meet the girl, you get her number, you wait 3 days, you phone her and ask her out, you make out with her, you wait 1 or 2 days, you phone for another date, you meet up with her, you have sex
thanks.
Sounds like a solid plan to me.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 7:25 pm
by Grounded
IceCrash wrote:pros way
you meet the girl, you get her number, you wait 3 days, you phone her and ask her out, you make out with her, you wait 1 or 2 days, you phone for another date, you meet up with her, you have sex
thanks.
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 7:59 pm
by cpinney
Fiction wrote:Why even ask? Do like Cpinney... "When it feels right"... This is bullshit, we met, next day I come home and he's taken a shower in my house and is naked in my bed reading MY Tv Guide! He's smooth like that though... fell in love with him that moment <3
damn i forgot all about that, your silk sheets where amazinggggggggggggggggg
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 11:22 pm
by SM-Count
depends on girl, play it by feel
e.g. if it's raining you see a few muggers going after a hot girl with no bra on and you proceed to beat up the muggers, then she kisses you, it's safe to say you can ask her out even though you've only met her for a few minutes rather than swing away like a pussy
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Fri Apr 22, 2011 11:51 pm
by Fiction
SM-Count wrote:depends on girl, play it by feel
e.g. if it's raining you see a few muggers going after a hot girl with no bra on and you proceed to beat up the muggers, then she kisses you, it's safe to say you can ask her out even though you've only met her for a few minutes rather than swing away like a pussy
It also would be safe to say, you're spider man!
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Sat Apr 23, 2011 1:17 am
by iGod
Right away or never, there should not be any pussyfooting... "friendships" turned relationships always get ugly(so thats x months before date out the window), if shes attracted to you at all, she'll say yes, if she says no you either had no chance or she's too scared/shy of dating(which means you wouldn't want to be with her anyway, right?).
Then again, you could easily meet sluts that way, but that doesn't seem like a problem to me?
Re: Asking her out
Posted: Sat Apr 23, 2011 1:35 am
by Goseki
Asking out on a date or asking out to be your girlfriend?
Date, once you feel a connection. To be your girlfriend, aka going steady, probably at least 3+ dates.