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So there's this girl, her name is Nakia. And contrary to her name she is in fact, white. . Anyways, so this girl is 18. She works on a ranch out in Utah. She's an incredible ballet dancer. Has an amazing laugh. And is incredibly clumsy off the stage which I find adorable. And yeah...

We only see each other like once a year at this week long conference things we do with our churches. About 1000 people attend each year. But yeah. Anyways, we haven't really hung out or talked much up until this year. We spent pretty much every available moment that we could together. Her best friend and my sister would often hang with us too which was cool.

Anywho, we pretty much hit it off. Had amazing chemistry and what not. There's just one problem, she has a boy friend. Which makes me all confused with why she was flirting with me all the time. I'm told her boyfriend and her won't last. Mainly because he's a douche bag who, honestly doesn't deserve her. Then again, I probably don't either. But still. He hangs out with the wrong people and they rub off on him.

So my question is for you guys, is what should I do? I'm seriously crushing hard over this girl. But I don't even know if she feels the same way. Even if she sure acted like it. She also has a man. Which makes things a bit trickier. I mean I could back off and wait for them to break up...if they even do. Or, I could just be amazing and help the break up happen faster. I just don't know what to do. And I'm kind of a mess atm because of it.

Ugh.

Halp?

You can


A) be a man(douche). Go for her and disregard her boyfriend.

B) imagine how it would feel if you were her boyfriend and she did this to you. And hey if it's happening now, who's to say it won't happen when you're with her and she meets another Mr. NiceGuy

So you don't see her as much, she has a boyfriend, and you don't know if she feels the same way?

Seems sketchy.

Ask yourself this. Do you want a girl that is willing to end her relationship solely for you? Or do you want a girl that breaks up her relationship for her own reasons and you're there to support and comfort her as the rebound.

If you choose A, than go fck their shit up.

If you choose B, than just be supportive of what she does, like the ballet and talk to her often. Wait and see.

Dangers of A include she's just a hoe who will eventually dump you for a better guy.

Dangers of B include you fall into the role of supportive friend.


You say she mentioned she thinks her relationship won't last, ask her to hang out, see what she likes, if her boyfriend is a dick about something and she tells you, slip in "I wouldn't do that, I think blah blah blah". If you notice she starts getting really attached to you, can quickly slip in the "are you guys still going out?" phrase. If she says yes, act/be slightly sad. Not enough to make you look like a pussy, but enough to show you're slightly put out. If she's really interested in you, she'll prob say her thing won't last. If not, she'll prob say we're just friends.

In which case you can throw in the closer and tell her to call you if she needs someone to talk to. Than stop hanging out with her. Treat her as a friend at this point until she calls you cuz she broke up with the douchebag. If she doesn't, it's a lost cause, but you have a friend. Or a fuckbuddy, whichever.

I'd avoid her like the plague, but that's just me.

Tasdik wrote:So there's this girl, her name is Nakia. And contrary to her name she is in fact, white. . Anyways, so this girl is 18. She works on a ranch out in Utah. She's an incredible ballet dancer. Has an amazing laugh. And is incredibly clumsy off the stage which I find adorable. And yeah...

We only see each other like once a year at this week long conference things we do with our churches. About 1000 people attend each year. But yeah. Anyways, we haven't really hung out or talked much up until this year. We spent pretty much every available moment that we could together. Her best friend and my sister would often hang with us too which was cool.

Anywho, we pretty much hit it off. Had amazing chemistry and what not. There's just one problem, she has a boy friend. Which makes me all confused with why she was flirting with me all the time. I'm told her boyfriend and her won't last. Mainly because he's a douche bag who, honestly doesn't deserve her. Then again, I probably don't either. But still. He hangs out with the wrong people and they rub off on him.

So my question is for you guys, is what should I do? I'm seriously crushing hard over this girl. But I don't even know if she feels the same way. Even if she sure acted like it. She also has a man. Which makes things a bit trickier. I mean I could back off and wait for them to break up...if they even do. Or, I could just be amazing and help the break up happen faster. I just don't know what to do. And I'm kind of a mess atm because of it.

Ugh.

Halp?

you only see her once in a while. just be outright blunt about it. itd be different if you saw her everyday at school. just be like, "i know you got a man, but im totally diggin ya. wanna go blow some trumpets and and eat some manna n shit?" shes 18 shes gonna respect you being flat out honest way more than oogling her for another 4 years before she decides she wants to "experience the world" and plunges vag deep into secularism.

yeap
go for the strawberry shortcake then leave like cows do when chuck norris arrives

1. You have no right to decide who should she hang out with, doesn't matter how douche bag her boyfriend is. But you can tell her how you feel and maybe it turns out she feels the same way how you feel.

2. Ignore what I've said and tell her how douche bag her boyfriend is and that he doesn't deserve her.

3. Stalk her like you have never stalked anyone before. /I prefer this one/

Go for her.

Goseki wrote:Ask yourself this. Do you want a girl that is willing to end her relationship solely for you? Or do you want a girl that breaks up her relationship for her own reasons and you're there to support and comfort her as the rebound.

If you choose A, than go fck their shit up.

If you choose B, than just be supportive of what she does, like the ballet and talk to her often. Wait and see.

Dangers of A include she's just a hoe who will eventually dump you for a better guy.

Dangers of B include you fall into the role of supportive friend.


You say she mentioned she thinks her relationship won't last, ask her to hang out, see what she likes, if her boyfriend is a dick about something and she tells you, slip in "I wouldn't do that, I think blah blah blah". If you notice she starts getting really attached to you, can quickly slip in the "are you guys still going out?" phrase. If she says yes, act/be slightly sad. Not enough to make you look like a pussy, but enough to show you're slightly put out. If she's really interested in you, she'll prob say her thing won't last. If not, she'll prob say we're just friends.

In which case you can throw in the closer and tell her to call you if she needs someone to talk to. Than stop hanging out with her. Treat her as a friend at this point until she calls you cuz she broke up with the douchebag. If she doesn't, it's a lost cause, but you have a friend. Or a fuckbuddy, whichever.

Problem is, she's in utah. We can't hang out. I mean I got her number, *and was the only guy to do so, even though several people asked*, I could start texting her a bunch. But I don't know if I want to let myself become even more involved with her if it doesn't work out. I don't know if I could handle it.

It's weird though, cause when I was with her I caught her correcting herself. Like she'd say something that could be taken slightly romantically, then she'd correct herself and put it in the we're friends category. Which lead me to believe she was interested in me. Even if it was only slightly.

Also, she didn't say they were going to break up. It was one of her friends. This same friend loves the idea of us being together so perhaps this will work to my advantage. It never hurts to have a girl's friends on your side. Heh.

Perhaps I'll just have to play the waiting game and see what happens. She confuses me.

CeLL wrote:you only see her once in a while. just be outright blunt about it. itd be different if you saw her everyday at school. just be like, "i know you got a man, but im totally diggin ya. wanna go blow some trumpets and and eat some manna n shit?" shes 18 shes gonna respect you being flat out honest way more than oogling her for another 4 years before she decides she wants to "experience the world" and plunges vag deep into secularism.

You'd be surprised with how accurate your descriptions of our churches are. Shofar's anyone? Ha.

Anyways, I don't really ogle her. Which I know sounds weird. But I'm not constantly obsessed with her, physically, like I normally am with girls. I don't really know why. But I'm not. *don't get me wrong she does look pretty dang good, but yeah*

Buddhist wrote:3. Stalk her like you have never stalked anyone before. /I prefer this one/

Haha! We actually had this little joke going on about how she was always stalking me. It may have been the other way around, but hey if that's how she want's to look at it then I'm fine with it. = p.

*apologizes for the double post*.

don't do it if you can't see her often that shit will drive you crazy, trust me.

she obviously only has a boyfriend back in utah, shes free anywhere else.

cpinney wrote:don't do it if you can't see her often that shit will drive you crazy, trust me.

It's kind of funny though. All of my siblings, with the exception of my oldest brother, have had long distance relationships with their, then, future wives. We live in TN. One of my brothers wife's was in Montanna, the other in FL, and my sister married a guy from WY. Long distance relationships is just how we roll apparently. Ha.

I didn't know we had mormons on this forum Oo!

i dont think hes a mormon.
i can smell the Herbert Armstrong on you a mile away.

but just tell her in a respectable way. be an adult. just make sure she understands you arent trying to pressure her in some way that way she doesnt feel obgliated and leads you on. if she says no than just move on and remain friends. in the real world, the concept of "being friends" isnt as scary or akward as media makes it appear.

Tasdik wrote:

cpinney wrote:don't do it if you can't see her often that shit will drive you crazy, trust me.

It's kind of funny though. All of my siblings, with the exception of my oldest brother, have had long distance relationships with their, then, future wives. We live in TN. One of my brothers wife's was in Montanna, the other in FL, and my sister married a guy from WY. Long distance relationships is just how we roll apparently. Ha.

ignore what i said then, its a sign, go for it

CeLL wrote:i dont think hes a mormon.
i can smell the Herbert Armstrong on you a mile away.

lol you're kidding me? I don't believe that... but I could see it. So he meets her at the feast? =P

blows her trumpet and atones.

Fiction wrote:lol you're kidding me? I don't believe that... but I could see it. So he meets her at the feast? =P

Maybe he gets something for dessert if you know what I mean.

Tasdik, clarify what church you're with?

Seji wrote:So you don't see her as much, she has a boyfriend, and you don't know if she feels the same way?

Seems sketchy.

Not at all, is almost as if she asking for it. Go for it and congrats in advance !

im guessing CGG. or the UCG.

kiss her damnit. you can do it!

Guess there won't be any love making as you're religious and all, but just go for her. Be her superman, man! Make her want you, flash a little skin, show off...

But Remember:

BE
THERE
FOR HER when she needs you. Talk, have fun, and do the above when you have the chance. **** it, lift a horse for her if she wants you to.

Tasdik wrote:

Buddhist wrote:3. Stalk her like you have never stalked anyone before. /I prefer this one/

Haha! We actually had this little joke going on about how she was always stalking me. It may have been the other way around, but hey if that's how she want's to look at it then I'm fine with it. = p.

*apologizes for the double post*.

Okay, forget the above.

she thinks you're gay if you make jokes like that. trust me, I've been there.

CeLL wrote:im guessing CGG. or the UCG.

I thought you were talking about WCG =(

CGG is the WCG.
church of the great god
i believe is the more strick to armstongs beliefs i believe that WCG stopped uphold saturday sabbaths and started allowing holidays n shit.
http://www.cgg.org/index.cfm/fuseaction ... eak-up.htm
united church of god i also like CGG.

CeLL wrote:CGG is the WCG.
church of the great god
i believe is the more strick to armstongs beliefs i believe that WCG stopped uphold saturday sabbaths and started allowing holidays n shit.
united church of god i also like CGG.

Bloody Cell just found my church =( I believe the teachings of Garner Ted Armstrong.

Anyways, I was just curious.

^^ well good luck with that.

CeLL wrote:^^ well good luck with that.

Thank you sir.


Tasdik is MIA?