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Okay ,so recently my gf broke up with me..cause i couldnt change....since now :S..
She didn't had any feelings for me anymore..When she broke up i was broken...
She said stuff like 'we are forever together' and 'you are the one for me'....

But now she says stuff like :
Why couldn't you change?
I don't want any relationships anymore!
Can we be still friends?
Let it go you will find another..

And such things..but i love her way to much to get her and those memories out of my head ..
And since i don't have her anymore...i changed in the guy she liked, and i don't know why i couldn't change earlier ....but i don't know if i can get her feelings get back for me....
Is there any way or hope that i can get her back??

If so i would really wanna know..cause i just love her to much

Greetz and Ty in advance..
Sly

And you felt like sharing that because?
Congratulations anyway.

Cause i wanted to know if i still have a shot , or if anyone know if i can make a shot..

Had this happen to me. Pretty similar.
Truth is, my GF I have now is even better. Almost a Year now.
My Ex was 3 years. And now she's a total jealous stuck up bitch.
Wishes she had me back cause I rub it in here face that I could be a better person without her.

If you really want her back though. Show her you changed instead of telling her.

So if i just make a apointment with her just to meet up i can maybe let her see i changed..??But would this be enough to get her feelings for me back??

i know how you feel... just fight for it, fight.. so did i .. i won her back

This is a very common issue that happened to most of us .

The reason you didn't change earlier because you had this feeling that you already won her so you didn't do any extra effort to keep that (Rockie mistake) . you should have showed her that you are "slowly" changing coz if you did it so fast she would think of you as a wimp .

I want to add that most of us want what we don't have (like kids with toys) so make sure that you really love her coz if you get back with her she'll have the upper hand in the relationship .

Ash wrote:This is a very common issue that happened to most of us .

not the smart ones.

people don't change. If you find yourself attracted to a lazy do nothing don't be surprised when they're lazy and do nothing. The rookie that people make is that when they get together with someone that person will/should change. Thats not the way it works, that why marriages end in divorce or why teen relationships last 3 seconds. If you want a relationship to work than take the time to get to know the other person so you know what they're really like and don;t expect them to change when you take things further cause thats not why you fell for them/ they fell for you in the first place.

If you just want to **** or have something nice to hang on your shoulder than sure, BS your personality and bad habits away until you get what you want then peace...

XemnasXD wrote:

Ash wrote:This is a very common issue that happened to most of us .

not the smart ones.

people don't change. If you find yourself attracted to a lazy do nothing don't be surprised when they're lazy and do nothing. The rookie that people make is that when they get together with someone that person will/should change. Thats not the way it works, that why marriages end in divorce or why teen relationships last 3 seconds. If you want a relationship to work than take the time to get to know the other person so you know what they're really like and don;t expect them to change when you take things further cause thats not why you fell for them/ they fell for you in the first place.

If you just want to **** or have something nice to hang on your shoulder than sure, BS your personality and bad habits away until you get what you want then peace...

True.

There's also always some things u dun like about a person, u shud accept it or break up. No one's perfect

XemnasXD wrote:
not the smart ones.

people don't change. If you find yourself attracted to a lazy do nothing don't be surprised when they're lazy and do nothing. The rookie that people make is that when they get together with someone that person will/should change. Thats not the way it works, that why marriages end in divorce or why teen relationships last 3 seconds. If you want a relationship to work than take the time to get to know the other person so you know what they're really like and don;t expect them to change when you take things further cause thats not why you fell for them/ they fell for you in the first place.

If you just want to **** or have something nice to hang on your shoulder than sure, BS your personality and bad habits away until you get what you want then peace...

Not totally true,, people don't change for other people maybe temporally. But people do change for their self's.
I changed. time ago i lost my love, i knew what was reason, once i was liar and cheater.. but now i don't do it anymore cause i know how dirty that is..

slytther age ?

asusi wrote:

XemnasXD wrote:
not the smart ones.

people don't change. If you find yourself attracted to a lazy do nothing don't be surprised when they're lazy and do nothing. The rookie that people make is that when they get together with someone that person will/should change. Thats not the way it works, that why marriages end in divorce or why teen relationships last 3 seconds. If you want a relationship to work than take the time to get to know the other person so you know what they're really like and don;t expect them to change when you take things further cause thats not why you fell for them/ they fell for you in the first place.

If you just want to **** or have something nice to hang on your shoulder than sure, BS your personality and bad habits away until you get what you want then peace...

Not totally true,, people don't change for other people maybe temporally. But people do change for their self's.
I changed. time ago i lost my love, i knew what was reason, once i was liar and cheater.. but now i don't do it anymore cause i know how dirty that is..

i'll agree with that...

XemnasXD wrote:

asusi wrote:

XemnasXD wrote:
not the smart ones.

people don't change. If you find yourself attracted to a lazy do nothing don't be surprised when they're lazy and do nothing. The rookie that people make is that when they get together with someone that person will/should change. Thats not the way it works, that why marriages end in divorce or why teen relationships last 3 seconds. If you want a relationship to work than take the time to get to know the other person so you know what they're really like and don;t expect them to change when you take things further cause thats not why you fell for them/ they fell for you in the first place.

If you just want to **** or have something nice to hang on your shoulder than sure, BS your personality and bad habits away until you get what you want then peace...

Not totally true,, people don't change for other people maybe temporally. But people do change for their self's.
I changed. time ago i lost my love, i knew what was reason, once i was liar and cheater.. but now i don't do it anymore cause i know how dirty that is..

i'll agree with that...

i will disagree i am 18 so fairly young and i look back 2-3 years ago and i see some silly things that i wouldnt call "me" but ya some people at certain points learn to appreciate things or dedicate themselves to a newly found joy at which point i feel comfortable enough to say they become a different person. so no absolutes but from personal experience people are stupid and conceited and the world smacks them around and they find a way to survive and since they found a way out ( thanks society ) they keep being them and they keep emerging in this "trashy" them until one of those enlightenment episodes occurs if they are lucky enough.

IMO, you don't really HAVE to change, UNLESS everyone would like you to change. I mean, I wouldn't change the way I am, they way I live, the way I act, just for one person. Ok maybe I love her, but love is limited, and if you changed your way of being for that person you loved you could end up with her not loving you anymore and vice-versa and on top of that you wouldn't feel comfortable about yourself because you changed to a person that's not you.

Well unless you really have some bad habits like lieing and all that major things that shouldn't exist in a relationship, you don't exactly have to change your way of being up-side down to please one girl.

Just try to focus on your good attributes, try to make them better, and get rid of your bad habits.

But anyways, I'm just another guy who likes to be an active member on a Gaming Forum. I may be totally wrong.

I wonder when people will ever find out, that you're not getting girls back by boring us with these topics on a gaming forum.

Please...

Since when did SRF become a love consultancy forum?

heroo wrote:Since when did SRF become a love consultancy forum?

since members started hitting puberty...

you should be used to this by now

Bad mistake to try and get back with her and she doesnt like you for you.

If you change, youll eventually get tired of acting like someone your not and start being your old self again.

Keep it 100% you at all times.

why would you change to win her back? she doesn't accept you by who you are. that's pretty lame imo. get a girl that loves you for who you are, not for who you can become. you're just fooling yourself by trying to be someone you're not.
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+1 too the above and

dude if someone doesnt like you for who you are and wants to change you then there not right for you. If someone really loves you they will love you for who you are and not want you to be something else.

My gf loves me for who I am n i love her for who she is n thats why we are able to have a good relationship along with good communication :p

What's the point in relationship if you have to change yourself for it?

Dude, you asked the internet for relationship help? No wonder she dumped you, never ever ever ask a forum for dating help -.-

DumboDii wrote:What's the point in relationship if you have to change yourself for it?

lol are you saying you wouldn't be willing to put up with some crap even if it is for a limited amount of time for a "fine" woman ?

i would .

Love wrote:lol are you saying you wouldn't be willing to put up with some crap even if it is for a limited amount of time for a "fine" woman ?

i would .

There ya go; "limited amount of time".

or do you want to be yourself and have something which lasts ? .

Okay this might be silly to ask on a gaming forum but hey ..People play games and are on a gamingforum doesnt means to havent felt no love :S ..

But anyways it isnt really changing myself its more like , i said some things to her i thought she could take it , cause i was making a joke....Guess she couldnt handle the jokes i said..So thats what i wanted to change cause i can live easily with that..
But the thing is she said , i will never take one of my ex-boyfriends back.........

So i actually really don't know what to do....she says to me to let it go...but those memories and such just keep wandering around in my head..Cause the times when were together were like perfect..
Now i really don't know what to do with this and/or how to get it over..I tried so many freaking things and nothing seems to work ..
And everyone says i'm better off without her , all my friends say that , my family keeps telling me i'm young..(17 years of age), and keep telling there are more girls...

But if i think about it , she isn't perfect( , nobody is)...but what if the definition of perfection??She was like perfect to me tho..And i thought i found that one unique person that i could spend the rest of my life with , thoughting she was the one and such...but then she broke up and left me there dying of pain ..
I already have met her so we could talk ,but i was so speechless to her , so i couldnt let her see i was changed , i was listening to my mp3 every second till she had enough...i haven't said a single word cause i was speechless (,untill she said we had to talk)...what could this mean??

So if she would get back feelings for me, how should i ask for another chance??
And if she doesn't get feelings for me..how could i make her feel something for me again?? :S

so she broke up with you cause you couldn't change? that's a fkin lame excuse imo. she might've just ended the relationshiip cause she clearly doesn't feel anything for you anymore, then it's better to just let go. forgive, forget and don't regret.
if she has told you to let it go more than 5 times you're officially a stalker.
if she only told you once, she might not mean it.
and about that "i won't take any ex-bf back" that's bullshit, any girl can fall for any ex-bf if you play it well. girls have told me that crap before "i don't love you anymore", "it's not the same as it was before" blah blah, bullshit. just play it well and win anyone back. but since you're asking a dam gaming forum for advice, i assume you ain't no player

give yourself some time, hang out with your friends, do whatever you want to keep her out of your head, eventually you will forget her. and then, go find someone else.

ps: 17? was she your first gf? your first sex? if so, that might not be love my friend

evilpeta wrote:ps: 17? was she your first gf? your first sex? if so, that might not be love my friend

Well letting it go is easier said then done....and she wasn't my first love...i usually said i wouldn't take ex-gf's back either...and i was over my other ex-gf's within 1 day..but not my last girl ..
And yes i'm 17 but family still thinks like , oooh he's young he doesn't know what he is talking about .....
And somehow i just CAN'T get her out of my head as i said earlier
And how would i play that good??Since i ain't such type i think( or not yet discovered i could =S ).

tcm

tncm

tncm he posted b4 i could delete