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Right so my girlfriend is spending so much time with another guy who has been her friend for like 7 years, he is madly in love with her but she doesnt see him in that way.

Over the past like week they have been going out everyday, they ask me to go but like wtf i hate the guy becuase he is a cock block last time i kissed her in front of him he cried, this is a guy 19 years old!

Now when i went out with a girl friend of mine she freaked out so i stopped hanging out with her. This isnt a trust issue its just she is spending more time with him than me.

What would you do about the whole situation?

I need advice but i dont want to loose her becuase i have been going out with her for like 7-8 months and she is an awesome girl.

You talked to her about it at all? just say you wanna spend more time togehter..

Sidi wrote:You talked to her about it at all? just say you wanna spend more time togehter..

I freaked out a few weeks ago becuase the guy stayed at her house.

Its just we were texting today and she said i wont be able to see you till monday or tueday. then about an hour ago she said i'm heading out with [name] tomorrow wanna come?

She cant see me till tuesday but she can make time for him... right?

Tell her to **** off, and see if you can get someone to beat him to near death, or stab him. Cheaters deserve to die anyway, anyone that cant be faithful deserves to die and never do anything to anyone else again.

Sharp324 wrote:Tell her to **** off, and see if you can get someone to beat him to near death, or stab him.

hahahahhaa

Sharp324 wrote:Tell her to **** off, and see if you can get someone to beat him to near death, or stab him. Cheaters deserve to die anyway, anyone that cant be faithful deserves to die and never do anything to anyone else again.

I'm sure she isnt cheating on me. She isnt that type of girl.

If they go out together and you don't want to come you and your girl might grow apart.

Unless you are madly in love with her tell her what you feel straight in her face.

Then she can make a choice for either you or him.

If she chooses for him you know what would have been unavoidable in the first place.

win/win situation.

It is a trust issue. She doesn't trust you to hang out with girls, but she expects you to be able to trust her just because she says she doesn't have feelings for him in that way. Bullshit. No way would I be letting my girl have any other guy stay over.

Or I'd get back at her and have some girl stay over. Regardless, in your situation, I would hang out with a girl more. To the point where your girlfriend starts to notice. Then if she brings it up, turn it on her. Say something like, "It sucks, doesn't it? Knowing I'm having a great time spending time with someone else." Put her in her place fast or this will keep going.

See i dont want her to think i want her to hang out with me and only me, she can have a life.

@.curve thats just going to be as bad as what she is doing, i thought about doing it but i think that we would just break up over all the shit that would start.

What ways can i say it to her that i'm annoyed at whats going on, in a not so smothering way.

just get mad on the phone once. go "how can you make time for that guy, but not for me?". seems like that ought to get her to talk or think.

Tell her you don't like the situation. If she understands it then it's ok, if she goes bitching at you then you know it wasn't worth it.

Like someone else said: "it's a win/win situation."

Just be honest about how you feel.

Do none of this choice bullshit, how would you feel if you had a great friend who was a girl, and your girlfriend was like "it's either her, or me", I'd choose my friend. Unless my girlfriend was a Farking babe, and a freak in bed, then my steadfastness would waver, but I still think I'd choose my friend.

Anyways, don't do that choice shit.

I think the idea of hanging out with a girl more is clever, but don't be like "Sucks, don't it?", instead say "well, she's my friend, aren't you ok with me hanging out with her?", & if she says "no", then say "Well, I'm ok with you and your guy friend". Do some more subtle shit like that, so it doesn't blow up in your face.

Good luck.

Rainigul wrote:Do none of this choice bullshit, how would you feel if you had a great friend who was a girl, and your girlfriend was like "it's either her, or me", I'd choose my friend. Unless my girlfriend was a Farking babe, and a freak in bed, then my steadfastness would waver, but I still think I'd choose my friend.

Anyways, don't do that choice shit.

I think the idea of hanging out with a girl more is clever, but don't be like "Sucks, don't it?", instead say "well, she's my friend, aren't you ok with me hanging out with her?", & if she says "no", then say "Well, I'm ok with you and your guy friend". Do some more subtle shit like that, so it doesn't blow up in your face.

Good luck.

You know you are so right, but i know if i hang with my friend thats a girl she will flip becuase they dont like each other. i think i will give it another week and if it continues i will tell her how i feel or just end it.

She is a special girl though, likes football, cars and everything that i like. She doesnt bitch like most girls and there isnt one thing i dont like about her personality. i wanted an easy to solve the problem so things will get back to the way they were.

Do you think i'm starting to smother her by wanting her around me a little too much?

SneakyBanana wrote:Its just we were texting today and she said i wont be able to see you till monday or tueday. then about an hour ago she said i'm heading out with [name] tomorrow wanna come?

She cant see me till tuesday but she can make time for him... right?

Shes obviously untrustworthy and if what you said was true, she doesnt seem give a shit about you. Shes losing interest in you, and to me, I dont find it particularly glamorous for a guy to beg for a girl to like him - find another girl who will treat you decently and with a little more respect. Break up with her - explain to her that you cant put up with any of her crap and about how you feel about her and the other guy.

If you really wanna keep her, tell both her your feelings and tell him to back off, the pussy he is.

Tell the guy to back the **** off.

Invite both of them to watch a movie at your house, cuddle with your girl, kiss her and shit. When he cries, whisper to him "Your QQ makes my penis hard."

what about you knocking her up? gg for the other guy right there

1. jealous much



2. Get him mad

3. maybe hes gay

Memorize what you wrote and tell her.

Instead of telling us how you feel, you should be telling her.

SneakyBanana wrote:

Sharp324 wrote:Tell her to **** off, and see if you can get someone to beat him to near death, or stab him. Cheaters deserve to die anyway, anyone that cant be faithful deserves to die and never do anything to anyone else again.

I'm sure she isnt cheating on me. She isnt that type of girl.

You can't always trust those you love. They often mislead you and make you think they're something they are not.

Snoopy wrote:You can't always trust those you love. They often mislead you and make you think they're something they are not.

hes right.

Besides that -->

Reise wrote:Tell the guy to back the **** off.

I'dd do that, tell him to get the fuck away from My girlfriend, though i'dd also tell my GF that i aint comfortable with it, that it doesnt feel right and that i'dd want to spend more time with her.
If she cant understand / accept that... yea x__X

dom wrote:Memorize what you wrote and tell her.

Instead of telling us how you feel, you should be telling her.

Agreed. And the longer you wait the worse it will get.




I get pissed when girls just talk to Jackal...

Sharp324 wrote:Tell her to **** off, and see if you can get someone to beat him to near death, or stab him. Cheaters deserve to die anyway, anyone that cant be faithful deserves to die and never do anything to anyone else again.

Why stab him?
He's not being unfaithful thus he doesn't deserve to die.

Reise wrote:Tell the guy to back the **** off.

The girl isn't the problem here, its the cock block...women get jealous easily, part of their insecurity package so of course she's going to jump at another female in your space. Men are more territorial, if theres a problem go to the man and sort it out, if he won't back off then clearly he's trying to **** things up and if she can't see that then move on cause then she obviously likes the attention.

So i was texting her today and told her i was heading to the beach with my dog and she said ah sure i'll meet you up there with [name]. That was the last straw i texted back saying dont bother i wasnt going anymore and then asked her why she can make him for him but cant for me.

We are kinda having a little fight in texts right now.

Sacchin wrote:

dom wrote:Memorize what you wrote and tell her.

Instead of telling us how you feel, you should be telling her.

Agreed. And the longer you wait the worse it will get.




I get pissed when girls just talk to Jackal...

*rolls eyes* =.= <3.



Anyway, yea that sounds messed up, and he stayed with her overnight? Trusting or not, how can you stand for that? Why did he? A gf or bf can have friends, but when they go out with em like that, as in a gf hanging out with a guy friend or a guy hangin out with a girl so much, that doesn't seem that good. So what if he cries, go out with them enough and make him cry more, make her get annoyed with him or something, make him get sick of seeing it, at least not let em spend all the time together, alone, ending up spending the night together > >.

Maybe i'm just a more jealous type.

Dont text her. Women will always win on texting, always.

Just meet her and tell everything you just posted here about how you feel about the situation, and live the consequences.

DarkJackal wrote:Anyway, yea that sounds messed up, and he stayed with her overnight? Trusting or not, how can you stand for that? Why did he? A gf or bf can have friends, but when they go out with em like that, as in a gf hanging out with a guy friend or a guy hangin out with a girl so much, that doesn't seem that good. So what if he cries, go out with them enough and make him cry more, make her get annoyed with him or something, make him get sick of seeing it, at least not let em spend all the time together, alone, ending up spending the night together > >.

Maybe i'm just a more jealous type.

They have been friends for so many years, he has always tried to ask her out but she says no, i'm 100% sure she doesnt see him in that way.

On his birthday party i kissed her in front of him and that night his dad called my girls dad says that he was heart broken and crying becuase he is hurt seeing her with me.

I dont know what way i can tell her without looking like i dont trust her to be honest.

Amelie wrote:Dont text her. Women will always win on texting, always.

Just meet her and tell everything you just posted here about how you feel about the situation, and live the consequences.

Your so right, i wish you had of posted this earlier before i started to text her about it.

Just tell her how you feel about it, and talk bout it..

if you've got a good relationship talking will always work.