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Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 12:32 am
by Waffelz
Mod can you lock thread? Thank you

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 12:37 am
by Nitro
I dont know what to say you really, just hold on!
If I'd tell you everything will be fine, I dont want to lie, because im not there and I dunno how things work between you, so...

Hope things workout good.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 12:40 am
by Apy
There's always hope :love:






































Don't forget about that :wink:

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 12:41 am
by DonBebek
Well I hope you sort things out but you know, some members of SRF hate it when people post private stuff here so it can turn into a flamefest as usual.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 12:48 am
by izmeister
I really hope for all the best for you. But one question: Did you apologize for leaving her? I assume you did, but if you didn't that would be a good place to start.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 12:53 am
by Waffelz
izmeister wrote:I really hope for all the best for you. But one question: Did you apologize for leaving her? I assume you did, but if you didn't that would be a good place to start.


Of course, I've looked her into the eyes and told her i loved her and always will, And im truely sorry.

But thanks for the replys

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 12:59 am
by *BlackFox
Waffelz wrote:So now i'm literally loosing it, I feel like i'll never be with her, The one and only girl who i actually loved, I even wanted to marry her. But lately i've been thinking about suicidal thoughts, Cause honestly i can't live without her. I need her.

I told my mother about this, So now shes scared,
spare your family and her family the agony of your suicidal thought, that is selfish and don't threaten about that to take her back that never would work.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:04 am
by Waffelz
*BlackFox wrote:
spare your family and her family the agony of your suicidal tought, that is selfish and don't threaten about that to take her back that never would work.


I've never threaten her with it, I wouldn't cause obviously she'd think i was crazy or somthing.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:10 am
by Grimjaw
Serves you right and you deserve to feel like shit. You placed the girl you loved the most second to another girl. Only after you dumped her you realised that what you did was a mistake and now you want her back. Meaning you broke the hearts of 2 girls.. Even if you feel genuinly sorry and heartbroken for putting her through this, she didn't deserve this. And you should have thought things over before you acted, and what gives you the right to expect anything after the shit you pulled on her? I hope she decides to choose for herself, because when you have a relationship of 2 years time. You don't pull shit like this.

On a side note: Work on your mutual communication so you can decypher your own girlfriend. Clearly you know jack shit about the feelings of woman or you just don't care to listen to them. Start being less selfish and when she's talking on the phone with you..Let her finish what she wants to say, because it's in that part where bonds can be made or broken. You don't assume shit, you hope for it.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:15 am
by Waffelz
Lol, Yea true i do deserve to feel like this, But your wrong about the 2 girl thing. I never broke the other girls heart or whatever, We didnt even date really. I just ended up leaving the girl i loved and became miserable.

But thanks anyways.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:19 am
by [SD]Master_Wong

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:21 am
by Psychedeelic
I'm sorry for you :( I dont know you but these things make me really sad, maybe ebcause I've been goin through something similar for few months, just for me it went terribly wrong and I dont seem to be able to fix anything, I keep screaming at the walls and they wont listen to me lol. The idea is that Ive also lost the guy Ive been with for 3 years, and I mean hes totally gone probably, and I survived heh. I even had the time to get my heart broken for 2nd time since then heh, and in the weirdest way possible, and now Im trying to get over again, unsuccesfully :banghead: . But its not the end of the world, even if this girl was and is so special, you can move on if theres really no way to fix it.

Im a girl so I see things from the point of view err of a girl. Or just from my point of view, Im a weird girl. So if she says she loves you and you really feel like she means it, then just give her time, then talk to her again. Talking to your mom is also good, if you two are close, its nice to hear a guy actually shares stuff lik that with his mom. And suicide is stupid, if you cant live without her, then fight for her. Last option shouldnt be suicide though, even if it seems impossible to deal with, yuo will see you can do it. I'm not saying it in a "get over her" way, but I perfectly understand you, and I know what you're goin through right now, but trust me, it will fix itself one way or another, just give her time and also give yuorself some time to think.

Still, what you did might not be easy to forgive for her.. I probably wouldnt >.<. So I'm sorry if I sound harsh but expect bad ending, and dont be shocked. Remember what I said above, its not the end of the world, you can make it through.

I hope it goes well in the end =]

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:22 am
by GreenTea
Waffelz wrote:Lol, Yea true i do deserve to feel like this, But your wrong about the 2 girl thing. I never broke the other girls heart or whatever, We didnt even date really. I just ended up leaving the girl i loved and became miserable.

But thanks anyways.


Think of how she felt that after 2 years, you got attracted to another girl and left her.

I wouldn't take you back even.

If my girl did that to me for another guy,

I don't care if she put a gun to her head and threatened suicide if I didn't take her back, the "In Love" and "Trust" is gone forever.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:23 am
by Grimjaw
Waffelz wrote:Lol, Yea true i do deserve to feel like this, But your wrong about the 2 girl thing. I never broke the other girls heart or whatever, We didnt even date really.


lol. And you dumped her for that?

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:27 am
by [SD]Master_Wong

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:28 am
by Sharp324
Well depends, sometimes its best to just leave it. I have an ex that still loves me a lot but had to move on, sometimes its best...be good friends and thats all. If you can fall in love with another girl like that you shouldnt really be with her again just to hurt her more.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:30 am
by cpinney
dont forget it will always get better, trust me, if i didnt believe that i would be dead :roll:

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:33 am
by [SD]Master_Wong
gah no one lolled, man i was trying to make a point but i gots no evidence to back it up.

tbh dude you farked up, if she wants you back she will take you back but you lost all trust

and most people over 18 here have lost love my first love moved to new zealand i could never/have never seen her again, you move on and shit happens sometimes for the better you never know

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:35 am
by Waffelz
Grimjaw wrote:
Waffelz wrote:Lol, Yea true i do deserve to feel like this, But your wrong about the 2 girl thing. I never broke the other girls heart or whatever, We didnt even date really.


lol. And you dumped her for that?


Listen, I know what i did was pure stupid, And i regret it everyday. But no need to laugh, Your last comment was a little harsh, But your right. So now all i gotta do is hope really. I just wish i could have her back, Even if i have to wait. But you see the thing im scared of is if i wait for her, But in the end i get nothing. Sure some of you will say she shouldn't take me back,
But im young and stupid and we all do make mistakes, Obviously i wouldn't do the same mistake twice, Unless i was brain dead, Which im not.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:46 am
by XemnasXD
you're a dumbass and you don;t deserve her....but i think you realize that which is a good thing.

When you leave someone for someone else, especially when you do it based on a physical attraction you basically told the other person that their looks and their personality weren't enough for you to be happy. That leaves a deep scar on a persons memory especially on a girls and chances are it will linger in the back of her mind forever and she'll never let it go. Forgiveness isn't something that can easily gained back and even worse is that there maybe be feelings of bitterness left behind, even if you get back together it might not be the same. You farked up a good thing guy and this is a life lesson, one of the hardest and it doesn't often end well. better off leaving the good times in memories...

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:49 am
by Waffelz
XemnasXD wrote:you're a dumbass and you don;t deserve her....but i think you realize that which is a good thing.

When you leave someone for someone else, especially when you do it based on a physical attraction you basically told the other person that their looks and their personality weren't enough for you to be happy. That leaves a deep scar on a persons memory especially on a girls and chances are it will linger in the back of her mind forever and she'll never let it go. Forgiveness isn't something that can easily gained back and even worse is that there maybe be feelings of bitterness left behind, even if you get back together it might not be the same. You farked up a good thing guy and this is a life lesson, one of the hardest and it doesn't often end well. better off leaving the good times in memories...


No need to call me a dumbass :cry: , And yes she's told me it wouldn't be the same, I realize it wont be but i can try to make it better then last time.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:55 am
by Crowley
Same thing happened to me. But I got her back :wink:

You need to lose something on order to know how much you really loved it.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:58 am
by Waffelz
Tsume wrote:Same thing happened to me. But I got her back :wink:

You need to lose something on order to know how much you really loved it.


Thank you :)

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 2:00 am
by izmeister
Waffelz wrote:
Grimjaw wrote:
Waffelz wrote:Lol, Yea true i do deserve to feel like this, But your wrong about the 2 girl thing. I never broke the other girls heart or whatever, We didnt even date really.


lol. And you dumped her for that?


Listen, I know what i did was pure stupid, And i regret it everyday. But no need to laugh, Your last comment was a little harsh, But your right. So now all i gotta do is hope really. I just wish i could have her back, Even if i have to wait. But you see the thing im scared of is if i wait for her, But in the end i get nothing. Sure some of you will say she shouldn't take me back,
But im young and stupid and we all do make mistakes, Obviously i wouldn't do the same mistake twice, Unless i was brain dead, Which im not.


You have to make her trust you again. If I were you I would try to convince her friends as well, since most girls will listen to what their friends tell them. They can easily be your greatest help or your worst obstacle.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 2:32 am
by _MvP_
Sadly I know how you feel. I`ve been with girl 2 years and then we break up. Was really hard, 7 months since we break up, and still the same, I still love her :(. We are really really good friends, and we are in touch evry day, at least 5-6 sms. We go out often too and sometimes we get caught in the moment... but we arent together for real and its killing me. Just try to think positive and dont loose hope.

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 2:36 am
by Waffelz
Pfff wrote:Sadly I know how you feel. I`ve been with girl 2 years and then we break up. Was really hard, 7 months since we break up, and still the same, I still love her :(. We are really really good friends, and we are in touch evry day, at least 5-6 sms. We go out often too and sometimes we get caught in the moment... but we arent together for real and its killing me. Just try to think positive and dont loose hope.


Ahh i'm glad to hear your doing good imo, Hopefully we can do the same but like you said it kills you, It would eat me but thank you

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 2:37 am
by Reise
She loves you but doesn't want a relationship? What kind of shit is that.

Have you tried whipping it out yet?

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 2:41 am
by Waffelz
Reise wrote:She loves you but doesn't want a relationship? What kind of shit is that.

Have you tried whipping it out yet?


Well her mom pretty much controls her life, ( Coming from my mom, Since her mom and mine are friends )

But as for the whipping out part, She has said she misses it ;) Hahaha

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 2:42 am
by Sacchin
cpinney wrote:dont forget it will always get better, trust me, if i didnt believe that i would be dead :roll:

^ Agreed, except the dead part > >
Hope things get better for you both, hang in there~

Re: Serious Topic

Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 2:49 am
by Waffelz
Sacchin wrote:
cpinney wrote:dont forget it will always get better, trust me, if i didnt believe that i would be dead :roll:

^ Agreed, except the dead part > >
Hope things get better for you both, hang in there~


Thanks hun