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*BlackFox
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Re: need advice

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K.K wrote:she know that i like her, and that i'm not just a friend, but she keep acting like i'm.
Seriously, she really sees you as a friend. and you can't force someone to love you
because you want it. That's kinda selfish. Well, but be honest and explain your feelings.
Otherwise if you find yourself angry with her all the time, you’re going to lose her anyway.
and it might ruin the friendship.
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Here is what you have to do:

Call her and ask her to meet you somewhere in a calm place and just simply talk to her, tell her how you feel about the way she acts.. ask her to express her feelings to you, maybe you are nothing more than a friend to her. Trust me it is the best thing to do. You have nothing to loose and after the conversation with her you will know what to do next...


When i see people asking on forums or some other places for advices like this "what to do", i feel like :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: Can't people just simply communicate with each other these days?? When i have any problems, misunderstanding, whatsoever with my friends - i just talk about it with them...

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Use BRUTE FORCE. :sohappy:
Never argue with an idiot. They bring you down to their level and beat you with experience.

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The problem isn't her, it's you.

You have a set cycle and routine. You two will sit, talk, do your work in class and say goodbye/walk home or whatever. That is your routine, and she broke it. She decided that for one day, she'd talk to someone else. And she made it worse, didn't she? She was to busy and forgot to say goodbye, oh the bloody hell noes!

The problem isn't her, she's done nothing wrong. If anything, all she did wrong was not say goodbye but that's just a little rude is all, no biggie. She's made a new friend and wants to talk to him. Big deal. What's the problem? Let her talk to him, it's not like you two have to talk together all the time in the exact same class again and again and again.

You need to accept the fact that even if you like someone, it doesn't mean you should date someone. I learned this the hard way and after I learned it, my life become much better. I got to the point where I was taking the friendship for granted and was focusing on being with the person I liked. But seriously, why do that shit for? You need to step back, stop obsessing and enjoy your friendship. If she's going to like you, it's because she likes the friend that you are, not from being some over obsessed guy who is focused on simply going out with her.

And you said earlier you weren't obsessed? Do you actually believe that? A friend of yours talks to one of her friends in one class lesson and you proceed to take it as a personal insult where it destroys your ability to go out with her. Then, to make it even goddam creepier, you decide to go on the internet and ask a bunch of gamers for some advice to win her back! Dude, if you don't think that's obsessed than I'd hate to be the poor girl that you do end up obsessing over.

Stop thinking with your heart and think with your head. Be her friend, view her as a friend, aim to have funtimes and share some great memories with her. The only way she will like you beyond the level of "Wow, this guy is hot & funny, I want to screw him" is by having a long lasting friendship and letting her get to know the guy you are. Step back, stop obsessing and just get on with your life. Seriously.

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frankaslt1 wrote:Here is what you have to do:

Call her and ask her to meet you somewhere in a calm place and just simply talk to her, tell her how you feel about the way she acts.. ask her to express her feelings to you, maybe you are nothing more than a friend to her. Trust me it is the best thing to do. You have nothing to loose and after the conversation with her you will know what to do next...


Creeper much? If you're going to get in her pants you better act like a man, not like a boy. Men don't get angry at a girl they aren't in a relationship with talking to other guys.
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