Leaving home

[MasterKojito]

Ok, I want to get some input from some of the older people that post here. The topic is leaving home and I want to know if you left home (stopped living with your parents), if so, when and why.

If you wondering how old I am, I'm 15. I sometimes think about leaving home when I turn 18. My dad can be a bit annoying and can get really pissed off at the smallest things. While most people don't want to read about my life story, that's how it is. Please leave a comment and drops some input/opinions. :3

[DonBebek]

Trust me, you will regret it if you leave home. My parents, especially my mom can be annoying as hell and freak out at smallest things but they are your parents and nothing can change that. Most likely you won't find a place where you'll be happier than your home

[Mr.Ganji]

After 2 weeks of living by yourself, you'll be begging to come back home. If you even manage to find somewhere to stay, that is. Life isnt as dramatic as the movies if you leave home, you really are on your own. No money, no education, nothing. What a great way to begin your adulthood.

[woutR]

My mom moved out for a half year when she went to rehab, so I lived 'alone' for a half year. I guess that's a lot different, I still had her money to buy groceries and stuff, I still had a roof over my head so nothing really changed that much.
Imo, 15 is really young to be moving out. It will most likely destroy your chances of proper education. But if you just wanna move out at 18, sure why not? Everyone I know does it to go study, some don't get paid by their parents either and have to work for their money.
Moving out at 18 is perfectly normal for me.

[pr0klobster]

Hm...well, I'm 45, and my daughters left when they turned 18. I miss them both a lot, but they seem to be ok. One had a child, got married then moved out, moved in with another (nicer) boy, but now got evicted from her apartment and is looking for another.

My other daughter is currently living with her boyfriend in a small apt somewhere. I guess they are getting by.

Now, my personal experience: when I moved out, I had already graduated from high school early and did not want to go to college. So I got a job working with mentally handicapped people an entire state away and my own apartment. I spent a lot of time alone, because of my odd hours it was difficult to make friends, and I missed the privacy of a house. It sucked paying bills, keeping my place clean, washing clothes, all the little stuff - and not being able to listen to loud music when I felt like it. So I got headphones and listened to Pink Floyd and other alt bands for hours to kill time. I got a little depressed and did some stupid crap like drugs and alcohol, but came out of it ok. Took me a couple of years. Of course a lot of the stress was that job - seeing disabled people like that really hits you hard.

Anyway, you might do ok, but at 15 good luck finding a full-time job and getting an apartment. Sometimes the states/countries have laws about how much you can work while attending school.

You seem like a very intelligent person, so I'll assume you've thought this through and just want opinions. So, mine is stick around and talk things out with your father. He may mellow out with time.

[Wu]

Life on your own can be depressing, a few of my friends live alone now, and they don't like it too much.

They are bored, they grow tired of cooking all the time and living alone you grow lonely quick.

Spending a day at college and then spending the evening home alone every now and then if your friends are busy sucks.

And you have the whole financial stuff to worry about, and you are way more likely to skip college.

[cin]

i'd say it depends on what you're going to do and where
you live and plan to live. i mean, i have my own place,
but i share my bathroom, livingroom etc. with 7 other
students. i actually live 6 floors above my brother lol.
i can live here because i'm a student and they have
special housing facilities for students in this city.
i'm having a great time here, a lot of friends here,
and i visit my parents like once a month. money isn't
such a big problem either because over the years i've
built up a buffer for myself, plus i get money from
the government for studying.

[Swindler]

Trust me, you will regret it if you leave home. My parents, especially my mom can be annoying as hell and freak out at smallest things but they are your parents and nothing can change that. Most likely you won't find a place where you'll be happier than your home

Even if your parents beat you?



OT:
I am currently saving cash for buying furnitures and have atleast the rent payed for 6 months, and I dont think I am moving away from home before I am around 20, and yeah parents can be annoying but 15 years is a pretty young age so just hang in there for another 3-5 years.

[XemnasXD]

I loved living alone. You have to deal with people when you go to work. You have to deal with people when you go to school. You have to deal with people when you hang out with your friends. Arararara. Its much too much people. A person needs a place of quiet where they don't have to be sociable and can go a little mad. Its a good feeling having a place to go to that is yours and yours alone. I enjoy cooking for myself and cleaning up my place. I enjoy the silence with just my cat to keep me company. If that kind of stuff is your thing then living alone shouldn't be a problem if you can afford it and still move forward with your life.

But if you end up spending to much time there with nothing else to do you should be warned, with no one to talk to you'll spend most of your time talking to yourself which can be a good or bad thing. I remember when i lost my net connection and the cable was out i spent the afternoon on the floor yelling quotes from "There Will Be Blood"....

But don't move out over petty stuff. The world is full of petty things and if you are going to move out first and foremost you MUST be financially secure and have good idea where you are going. Without these things you will lose direction and responsibility quickly and that will just leave a mess that you may not be able to clean up. Don't sweat the small stuff, if your dad is a bit annoying suck it up and deal cause if thats your only reason its not a very good one.

[.AWAKE.]

it's kinda like my life story so if u dont wanna read it you dont have to , but figured you might like to see how it was for me..

*LIFE STORY*

Spoiler!

I graduated highschool when I was 16 (that was 4 years ago , I am 20 now) , right about that time , one of my friends had called me and asked if I knew anyone who would be interested in taking one of the rooms in this 3 bedroom 2 bathroom house that he had found up in the mountains (Big Bear , CA) , its about 2 hours away from los angeles / orange county , where i was at the time , so I told my parents about it and they thought it would be a good experience for me ( Ive always skateboarded growing up and I figure snowboarding would fit just like a glove, so they offered to pay my rent for the 6 months that I was there ( for an graduation present)...fast forward , November to April - 6 months of working in snowboard rentals / having the best time ever / dealing with living alone at 16..
it was a good life experience..

I moved back into my parents house right before I turned 17 (may) , the season ended in April, so I got a job at this home loans place called Homeowners Friend, I was in the call center making cold calls following a script off a computer screen , the main goal was to get the customer to refinance with our company, so 3 months of that, I get promoted to Jr. Loan officer, w00tz , another 3 months after that , it was december 1st , and I just received my RE-Hire packet from the mountain , cause they wanted to know if I was coming back..and by that time I had already banked about 5-6 grand from financing home loans.. ( it was great money before the sub-prime market crashed)
btw , one of my close friends came up and stayed in my living room the last 3 months of last season , and then me and him both got a job at the home loans place..

so me and "said" close friend.. talked..and decided we weren't done with the mountains just yet( we both had gotten significantly well at snowboarding) ..so me and him started driving up once a week , going to different renting agencies ..looking at listings for some cheap 2 bedroom places..and we finally settled with this nice 2 bedroom 2 bathroom small place about 2 minutes down the street from the parking lot of the mountain ( which worked out well because I was over snowboard rentals and decided to switch positions to "Terrain Park-Staff' and we basically got to the mountain at 5am (sometimes earlier if it snowed , cause we have to get snowmobiled upto the top ( the chairlift isnt running at that time) and they drop us off with a big metal rake and we would snowboard down to each feature , sometimes its a slider-box , or a handrail , but it would be covered in snow , so we would spend about 15 minutes or so at each feature cleaning it up , making a take-off and crushing all the "snow-cookies"(big chunks of ice) as we like to call it , generally prepping the park for an 8AM opening..anyways
so we snagged this house for 850$/month / $1250 security deposit (utilities not included) , got both our names on the lease ( which if you ever go into a situation where its you and 1 person make sure you BOTH get your names on the lease so your both held responsible for what happens ( even tho were under 18 we had our parents help us out with those discrepancies... so we start moving up all our shit, meanwhile im calling the different utilitiy companies trying to have our gas, water & electric turned on for the season ..paying the 125$ gas security deposit..the 100$ electric security deposit (water was standard)... which is such a bitch to do so keep in mind if you dont find a place with utilities included you might have to follow those steps..
so Fast forward another 6 months...the end of the season is coming and the temperatures are climbing the thermostat..were getting ready to part-ways with our humble abode, ( this is pretty much where shit started to hit the fans) during the seaons things got pretty crazy..lots of partying etc..( 2 young kids with there own place up in the mountains does not call for a good mix ) so the front window of our door was punched out..some holes and chips in the wall from falling snowboards ( we would have like 10 of our friends come stay for the weekend and they would bring all the gear and shit inside the house..( and its just a 2bdrm / 2bathrm place so things got a lil tight in there..generally we just left the place a mess!! , at such a young age the responsibility and upkeep of this place didnt seem to be our top priority, so me and him bounce (thinking we did a decent job at cleaning the place before we left....we were sadly mistaken..) we get a call telling us we will not be receiving any of the $1250 security deposit that we put down , and infact owed about 300$ in other damages and what not..(CRAP!!!!)

so..may is around the corner..and my 18th birthday is approaching..I end up moving back into my parents house..got a job..and that was the end of my mountain escapades ( ended up not getting re-hired at the mountain due to my lack of commitment..which was completely my fault for taking advantage of such a great situation I made for myself..


so all in all..I guess I would say they were the best 2 years of my life and defiantly came out of it with some great life experience..

and to talk about what you had asked, I would do it again in a heartbeat just to have that experience again..

*here is some pics to give you an idea of what it was like for me*

this was the house I told you about for the first time I moved up

My Room + living room ( thats the living room my friend spent the last 3 months in )

this is me and my roomate ( im on the left with the white shirt on)


so that was the first year..

here is the house me and my friend got the 2nd year





here is our crew ( im on the far left with the bandana on , my roomate is the guy in the black beanie u see upfront


us doing our morning stretches before we open the park

this is probably the best shot I got of myself all season

[heroo]

My cousin left home 3 days ago. It's alot of work, atleast here in the Netherlands. You have to take care of so many things and it costs a fortune.

I'm planning to leave home next year, when I finish my VWO and go to university. Though I'm looking forward to it, I know i'll be missing this house and my family

[Jstar1]

don't get the wrong idea about leaving home theres nothing cool or romantic about it. If your parents are real jerks..do whatever you can to avoid them. Stay at school to do your homework and then hang out somewhere away until dinner. And after dinner go outside again since your done with the homework.

If your dad is beating you or making you feel uncomfortable you have the right to an attorney and fuck everyone up in the butt at court.

[aznronin]

it's kinda like my life story so if u dont wanna read it you dont have to , but figured you might like to see how it was for me..

*LIFE STORY*

I'm not sure why but I just find it hard to believe you play/played Silkroad. I just don't know why.

OT: I can't wait to leave when I'm 18, 2 more years. My family fights alot and I wanna leave some bad things behind, I don't think I'll regret it.

[Melez]

I also have plans of moving out, but not now, at 20+ perhaps. But I mean moving out to a different country.

[.AWAKE.]

it's kinda like my life story so if u dont wanna read it you dont have to , but figured you might like to see how it was for me..

*LIFE STORY*

I'm not sure why but I just find it hard to believe you play/played Silkroad. I just don't know why.

OT: I can't wait to leave when I'm 18, 2 more years. My family fights alot and I wanna leave some bad things behind, I don't think I'll regret it.

hahah its funny because I brought my computer up with me and had verizon come out to my house just to install a drop from the powerline to my room, just so I could play silkroad while I was up there ...when the mountain closes at 4pm , you have a LOT of downtime at night waiting for morning so we can go snowboard again..

my friends just laughed at me and was like " he is playing his gamez again" lmfao

[Kolossal]

i have 18 and i dont wanna chnge my home/parents/bros with anything, also i found myself still too younger to leave. think abt it more than a couple of hours

[TOloseGT]

as long as u'r not getting abused, stick with it until you land yourself a job/school

[CrimsonNuker]

Don't. When you move out, you will have to pay for your own food, internet, television, and rent! Just appreciate what you have.

[antics]

you should only leave when u get a gud stable career
something that can pay the bills. not this minimum wage shit

[Mirosuke]

I miss my parents and sister so much sometimes, but also i want to make my own life so...

[_Scarlett_]

you should only leave when u get a gud stable career
something that can pay the bills. not this minimum wage shit

^This

I couldn't imagine the cluster **** I'd be in if I moved out and only had a high school diploma to find the shit jobs available, especially with all the shit I'd have to pay for.

[Mirosuke]

Well, you still have 3 years of "freedoom" until college comes, i think.
Live the life while u can

[Jstar1]

Ok, I want to get some input from some of the older people that post here. The topic is leaving home and I want to know if you left home (stopped living with your parents), if so, when and why.

If you wondering how old I am, I'm 15. I sometimes think about leaving home when I turn 18. My dad can be a bit annoying and can get really pissed off at the smallest things. While most people don't want to read about my life story, that's how it is. Please leave a comment and drops some input/opinions. :3

Aren't you going to college? Its only 3 years..just wait and then move into your residence hall. No parents there.

Unless you want to live on welfare checks and not go to college.

[wootpops]

im 20 i plan to move out next year and move across the country.

it will be weird for sure esp if i do move so far away can't just visit mom or dad.

on the other hand my friend lives with her mother and she has mad bank because no bills. so i would say stay at home and ignore your parents spend as little time at home as possible.

[Ashikiheyun]

Didn't read all the replies but i read your post. I JUST moved away from home today into my dorm at school, it sucked seeing my family leave in tears and I teared up a bit, but family means a lot to me and I get along great with my family.

I wouldn't have left unless it was for school honestly. After school I'll get my own place when I get a nice job, but meh, I my family, they gave me the space I needed but were still there for me.

[Barotix]

I don't live with my parents but I live off of them, my mom calls me everyday asking if I miss the family but it's not like I spent much time with the family. I was outside or in my room most of the time. =|
<~ 18

[XemnasXD]

I don't live with my parents but I live off of them, my mom calls me everyday asking if I miss the family but it's not like I spent much time with the family. I was outside or in my room most of the time. =|
<~ 18

college?

[Barotix]

I don't live with my parents but I live off of them, my mom calls me everyday asking if I miss the family but it's not like I spent much time with the family. I was outside or in my room most of the time. =|
<~ 18

college?

Yeah. I think for most it's either College or just trucking it.

[XemnasXD]

what school did you get into if you don't mind

[Cruor]

Pretty shitty to run away from your family, IMO. You may not like them now, but they are the only family you're ever going to get, and you'll miss them when they're gone. Unless you are living in a truly abusive situation, then I think you should stick it out. Really, the only good reason to be moving is if you are pursuing something, like college or a career or even a family of your own. I'll be leaving home in a few weeks to go to college myself.